When it happens, we don't know it in the first place. Then we miss the best oppertunity to desolve it, and it accumulates from then on. When one of the involved parties finally realizes it, it has already become beyond their ability (time, energy, skills, etc.) to handle well. Sometimes we have to just painfully give up.
Sad being a little human being.
我也不管我的chinglish是否让别人难受了,以后上来我就写“英文”,说错了都怪我英文不好。:-)