APAD:Don't dish it if you can't take it

Do not dish it if you can’t take it

The phrase  dish something out  is an informal expression of

                   : to give or say things to people without thinking about them carefully

                   :to give or serve food to people.

Think twice before handing out your advice and criticism to others even when it is not asked for or wanted (and that can be upsetting for them),  for someone tries to give you advice, would you get upset and protest and complain ?  If you don’t like people telling you what’s what, maybe you should stop doing it to others.

Another expression is “you can dish it out, but not take it”. If someone is rude, but gets upset with someone else is rude to him or her, that is an example of being able to dish it out, but not take it. It is a form of hypocrisy.

here is an example from Quora by author Liza V. :

 A former friend of mine, we were friends for 15 years had a habit of poking fun at me. Small things. I never mirrored her back, I just laughed along with her at my expense. Deep down I knew, if I did the same to her; she’d have a mental breakdown. We took a vacation together, and I rented a car; I didn’t want to be stuck with her all the time because she was a bit high energy. When I drive, I like to focus on the road and not entertain the people I’m driving by talking. She said something off putting to me at a red light. I wanted to shut her up and I dished out the same words she spilled on me towards her. She sulked all night and I shut her up.

 

 

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• we R all weeds, no one is more important thanAnyone else -最西边的岛上- ♀ (0 bytes) () 06/04/2024 postreply 06:50:55

• so bestNot 2 giveAdvice whenNot beingAsked, period. -最西边的岛上- ♀ (0 bytes) () 06/04/2024 postreply 06:51:57

• Giving advice accordingly -移花接木- ♂ (0 bytes) () 06/04/2024 postreply 12:25:59

• 我从来更喜欢小野花，自自然然，绚烂一片：） -妖妖灵- ♀ (0 bytes) () 06/04/2024 postreply 20:41:29

• 己所不欲，勿施于人 -妖妖灵- ♀ (0 bytes) () 06/04/2024 postreply 07:20:02

• 下一句是：“在邦不怨，在家不怨” ；） -最西边的岛上- ♀ (0 bytes) () 06/04/2024 postreply 08:34:06

• What does that mean? Wherever you are, don't complain? -7grizzly- ♂ (0 bytes) () 06/04/2024 postreply 08:45:33

• more like no whining ;-) 上面4句话是孔子解释“仁”的意思时说的。“邦”=国家，“家”=封地 -最西边的岛上- ♀ (0 bytes) () 06/04/2024 postreply 09:05:09

• 大概就是“好好为老板干活，不许抱怨”的意思吧 ;-)) -最西边的岛上- ♀ (0 bytes) () 06/04/2024 postreply 09:06:32

• Okay. There goes my best pastime:-))) -7grizzly- ♂ (0 bytes) () 06/04/2024 postreply 09:10:03

• sorry;) but it's fault ofConfucius, whoDishedOut 2MuchAdvice -最西边的岛上- ♀ (0 bytes) () 06/04/2024 postreply 09:25:57

• Yes. That old windy scalawag should hold his tongue :-) -7grizzly- ♂ (0 bytes) () 06/04/2024 postreply 09:39:07

• 80%相似度 -移花接木- ♂ (0 bytes) () 06/04/2024 postreply 11:59:26

• “Blurt out” might be a synonym. -暖冬cool夏- ♀ (0 bytes) () 06/04/2024 postreply 08:39:54

• Not sure but as long as one can slurp it back in ... :-))) -7grizzly- ♂ (0 bytes) () 06/04/2024 postreply 09:11:59

• Somewhat related, maybe -移花接木- ♂ (0 bytes) () 06/04/2024 postreply 14:02:47

• A great reminder: I shouldn't dish out what I cannot take. -7grizzly- ♂ (0 bytes) () 06/04/2024 postreply 08:44:26

• Heard long time ago. But I thought was pitch&take -移花接木- ♂ (0 bytes) () 06/04/2024 postreply 09:01:44

• Like a pair play pitch&catch baseball -移花接木- ♂ (0 bytes) () 06/04/2024 postreply 09:03:57