Should I lend the money to my sister?

I am now debating with myself on whehter I should lend another $2500 to my sister or not. My husband and I currently have mortgage and car loan and pay the care-giver to take care of my mother-in-law each month and have enough emergency funding to help her. But my husband may have to quit his job at any time permanently due to his health reason. This is at least the 3rd time that my sister asked for money. I lent it to her the 1st 2 times and did not expect her to return. My sister's husband was laid off a year ago and complaint that he could not get another full-time job. Both my sister and her husband are now working part-time. Her husband even run 2 part-time jobs most days. If I lent it to her again, I am afraid that there will be a blackhole and I don't know when it is the end. However, if i don't lend them the money, I have a sense of guilt since my sister told me that someone will repossess her husband' car tomorrow. What should I do? Any suggestions are greatly appreciated!

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• 给了这2千5，你家的情况会很糟糕么？ 不会的话，就给。 会的话就不给。 -y2001- ♀ (0 bytes) () 01/07/2016 postreply 12:40:09

• 人家老公很快就要因为健康原因辞职了，你说这情况咋样？ -甜齿- ♀ (0 bytes) () 01/07/2016 postreply 12:58:45

• 有LTD的话，老婆工作，不一定会很糟。 -y2001- ♀ (0 bytes) () 01/07/2016 postreply 13:09:20

• 现在还有情况这么糟糕的？不是老中吧？ -唯一2005- ♀ (0 bytes) () 01/07/2016 postreply 12:42:10

• +1000000000000000000 -韮儿- ♀ (0 bytes) () 01/07/2016 postreply 12:45:19

• 我也纳闷. 老中家里多少有些积蓄,怎会紧到车要被拖的地步. -lindaaa- ♀ (0 bytes) () 01/07/2016 postreply 13:15:16

• unbelievable, but it is the matter of fact to my sister and her -RoadBlind- ♀ (0 bytes) () 01/07/2016 postreply 13:27:58

• 她要$2500 干什么用，买包包类似的举动就算了，一次要这么多，为什么？实在不行给200 -roseice- ♀ (0 bytes) () 01/07/2016 postreply 12:42:47

• 不懂英文吗？ -吃才- ♀ (0 bytes) () 01/07/2016 postreply 12:55:39

• 帮了这一次问题解决了？看上去也不像。你和劳工的决定一致才行。 -咖啡飘香2016- ♀ (0 bytes) () 01/07/2016 postreply 12:44:01

• My husband will support my decision since i support his family a -RoadBlind- ♀ (0 bytes) () 01/07/2016 postreply 13:28:52

• 不给！救急不救穷，亲兄弟明算账。 -qqhme- ♀ (0 bytes) () 01/07/2016 postreply 12:45:16

• 不行的。要拖车了。没车不能上班跟没戏了。 -如尘- ♀ (0 bytes) () 01/07/2016 postreply 12:46:41

• 给吧。车拖了以后没法谋生了。 -如尘- ♀ (0 bytes) () 01/07/2016 postreply 12:47:41

• yes. agreed. this will affect the life of everyone else in the f -RoadBlind- ♀ (41 bytes) () 01/07/2016 postreply 13:30:02

• 可以借，但是最后一次 -听我作证- ♀ (0 bytes) () 01/07/2016 postreply 12:48:41

• 给。 -cecillia- ♀ (0 bytes) () 01/07/2016 postreply 12:49:25

• 换个旧车。 -郁金香花园- ♀ (0 bytes) () 01/07/2016 postreply 12:50:03

• 比2千5还便宜的车也不容易找吧？ -QKA- ♀ (0 bytes) () 01/07/2016 postreply 12:51:16

• 劝你别当救世主,这不是帮她是害她。她应该自己学会开源节流, 如果 -yellowlemon- ♀ (68 bytes) () 01/07/2016 postreply 12:52:04

• 妹夫打两份工，不算不努力了 -吃才- ♀ (0 bytes) () 01/07/2016 postreply 12:54:49

• 那就少花点了, 我碰到过每月付信用卡minimum payment 的人表面光鲜 -yellowlemon- ♀ (55 bytes) () 01/07/2016 postreply 12:57:33

• 她说妹妹光鲜了吗？ -吃才- ♀ (0 bytes) () 01/07/2016 postreply 13:01:33

• 我也没说她光鲜呀 -yellowlemon- ♀ (0 bytes) () 01/07/2016 postreply 13:03:36

• 要是我就借。紧急情况。而且别打算还 -吃才- ♀ (0 bytes) () 01/07/2016 postreply 12:53:50

• 如果这2500是用来保住车的，而且你们也不是缺了2500就不能生活，那就借，但说明这是最后一次了，否则，妹夫无车不能工作岂不是 -臭臭妈妈- ♀ (45 bytes) () 01/07/2016 postreply 12:54:14

• 你家情况也不乐观，我建议不给。何况这不是第一次了 -甜齿- ♀ (0 bytes) () 01/07/2016 postreply 12:59:45

• 如这钱是救急的就给。 -itistrue- ♀ (0 bytes) () 01/07/2016 postreply 13:05:28

• 自己权衡吧。不管咋样，你已经尽力了。 -AmyHM- ♀ (0 bytes) () 01/07/2016 postreply 13:05:57

• 真为难! 你妹妹一家怎么会过得如此被动,你妹夫一年前已被裁员,他们该对家庭经济早就有所安排. -lindaaa- ♀ (369 bytes) () 01/07/2016 postreply 13:09:44

• Yes. I am dependable, compared to others. -RoadBlind- ♀ (111 bytes) () 01/07/2016 postreply 13:32:40

• 借。只当送了个昂贵的圣诞礼物。 -遥遥- ♀ (0 bytes) () 01/07/2016 postreply 13:17:15

• i already bought hundreds of dollars of gifts (including shippin -RoadBlind- ♀ (36 bytes) () 01/07/2016 postreply 13:25:44

• 要我我就不借。你妹妹一家是成年人，他们应该对他们的生活负责而不是你 -lavendar~- ♀ (182 bytes) () 01/07/2016 postreply 13:21:04

• they are used to. Her husband has thousands of dollars of credit -RoadBlind- ♀ (0 bytes) () 01/07/2016 postreply 13:33:38

• Thank you everyone who has given me advice. -RoadBlind- ♀ (513 bytes) () 01/07/2016 postreply 13:24:21

• You have to learn to say no to them next time. -yellowlemon- ♀ (96 bytes) () 01/07/2016 postreply 13:34:54

• 那就不要借了，你管不了他们这种爱花钱不顾后果的生活。 -y2001- ♀ (0 bytes) () 01/07/2016 postreply 13:36:37

• 哎，很多人读书呆掉了，不知道人生最珍贵的是血脉，如果父母和兄弟姐妹都不伸出手的话，那么这个世界就没啥好留恋的了。 -菱利- ♀ (736 bytes) () 01/07/2016 postreply 22:28:15