How would you do if you were me?

来源: little.me 于 2006-12-28 19:01:39 [] [旧帖] [给我悄悄话] 本文已被阅读： 次 (1259 bytes)
My hu*****and is in a very close relationship with a girl who used to be my friend. They communicate through emial 10 to 20 times a day. I told him about how I feel, but he refused to discontinue the close relationship and told me that he is in need for her becuase of some reports she can get from her work. When we were talking about it last time, he even threat me to cut himself with knife if I mention about it again and said that I belittle him by accussing him having feelings for her, he said he is not that kind of person.

I beleived him but he really cares how she thinks about him becuase for $1 he makes he like to tell her that he made $10, and share the excitement with her.

I know that girl, she is a money driven person, she like to associate with money. When my hu*****and tells her he is capable to make good money, she like him even more.

I am confused, on one hand I beleive my hu*****and, but on another hand, the way he cares about how she feels about him and the way he like to share his success with her made me to question his claim.

I always come to this site and enjoy reading many people's post and learned a lot from your guys. SO now please let me know what would you do if you are in this situation?

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• 我能给你的唯一建议就是和他拉开距离. 他和你讲他和她的时候, -冬里- ♀ 给 冬里 发送悄悄话 (75 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 19:10:25

• 说得有道理,静观其变,如果你老公对那女的没什么想法, -katies- ♀ 给 katies 发送悄悄话 (185 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 19:27:39

• 对于这种纯粹出于追求满足的行为, 最好是不要把自己牵扯进去. -冬里- ♀ 给 冬里 发送悄悄话 (33 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 19:31:36

• I can't be at the same level as you -little.me- ♀ 给 little.me 发送悄悄话 (232 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 20:34:39

• I just wanted to get an answer to see -little.me- ♀ 给 little.me 发送悄悄话 (190 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 20:18:28

• 你想要什么答案？ -britannica- ♀ 给 britannica 发送悄悄话 britannica 的博客首页 (170 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 20:36:46

• I can't have the答案 without the help from him -little.me- ♀ 给 little.me 发送悄悄话 (370 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 20:45:43

• 我说 -britannica- ♀ 给 britannica 发送悄悄话 britannica 的博客首页 (110 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 21:12:51

• right to the point. Agree -wonder1- ♀ 给 wonder1 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 21:14:51

• I am 一鸡肋 to him, you might be right on that one -little.me- ♀ 给 little.me 发送悄悄话 (277 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 21:31:00

• 把你的底线亮出来，他不尊重就甩了他，他太不尊重你了 -石锅拌饭- ♀ 给 石锅拌饭 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 21:37:00

• But his argument is that he is doing this all for me and the fam -little.me- ♀ 给 little.me 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 21:43:20

• 品质有问题，你还爱他？他爱怎么想就怎么想，但必须尊重你的底线 -石锅拌饭- ♀ 给 石锅拌饭 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 21:47:44

• you do not love him, you love the ownership of him -britannica- ♀ 给 britannica 发送悄悄话 britannica 的博客首页 (72 bytes) () 12/29/2006 postreply 01:08:36

• There are boundaries you have to follow -little.me- ♀ 给 little.me 发送悄悄话 (367 bytes) () 12/29/2006 postreply 10:53:38

• 从你写的来看,你老公的为人也不咋地,那女的也不咋样地 -甜酒甜- ♀ 给 甜酒甜 发送悄悄话 甜酒甜 的博客首页 (52 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 19:11:59

• I treated her as a good friend before -little.me- ♀ 给 little.me 发送悄悄话 (276 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 19:18:55

• Is she single or married? -smileJJ- ♀ 给 smileJJ 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 19:19:42

• She is married but she doesn't think her husband -little.me- ♀ 给 little.me 发送悄悄话 (11 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 19:22:35

• 你"交友不慎",但现在主要是看你老公,不过你老公用你 -甜酒甜- ♀ 给 甜酒甜 发送悄悄话 甜酒甜 的博客首页 (133 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 19:29:26

• I love him but I also want to give him chance to -little.me- ♀ 给 little.me 发送悄悄话 (166 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 20:07:32

• I think he is into her. This relationship will develop -smileJJ- ♀ 给 smileJJ 发送悄悄话 (249 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 19:13:04

• 非常危险的关系，小心了。 -园艺- ♀ 给 园艺 发送悄悄话 园艺 的博客首页 (72 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 19:29:46

• 是你的就是你的，不是你的你栏也拦不住。 -apricotseed- ♀ 给 apricotseed 发送悄悄话 (158 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 19:48:20

• 举手同意 -lavendar~- ♀ 给 lavendar~ 发送悄悄话 lavendar~ 的博客首页 (119 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 19:57:41

• It's been two years -little.me- ♀ 给 little.me 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 20:00:04

• I tried to pretend that I didn't bother me at all -little.me- ♀ 给 little.me 发送悄悄话 (166 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 22:13:20

• 把你的钱看住了，把你的家看住了，别着急要孩子。 -apricotseed- ♀ 给 apricotseed 发送悄悄话 (167 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 20:08:05

• If I were so 强势, then he would listen to -little.me- ♀ 给 little.me 发送悄悄话 (127 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 20:15:11

• 仅仅是我的猜测而已，猜错了就当我什么都没说。 -Apricotseed- ♀ 给 Apricotseed 发送悄悄话 (198 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 20:41:01

• He knows how important he is in my life -little.me- ♀ 给 little.me 发送悄悄话 (558 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 20:52:58

• well, how is your sex life then? -lilywxc- ♀ 给 lilywxc 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 21:00:28

• is that girl younger and prettier than you? -wonder1- ♀ 给 wonder1 发送悄悄话 (75 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 21:05:18

• She is not as pretty as I am, at least that what I see -little.me- ♀ 给 little.me 发送悄悄话 (524 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 21:19:21

• I see. -wonder1- ♀ 给 wonder1 发送悄悄话 (775 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 21:39:16

• What you said about that girl is totally true -little.me- ♀ 给 little.me 发送悄悄话 (292 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 21:49:10

• 如果有时间我会讲个我知道的真人真事给你听. -katies- ♀ 给 katies 发送悄悄话 (99 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 20:41:39

• I like to hear it, could you QQH me please -little.me- ♀ 给 little.me 发送悄悄话 (19 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 20:55:18

• 你老公跟那女的关系有点象我父亲曾经两个老部下 -katies- ♀ 给 katies 发送悄悄话 (477 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 21:27:02

• 再八一下,男的能力各方面都不如女的,就是特有心计. -katies- ♀ 给 katies 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 21:39:38

• 去找那女的谈 -annje- ♀ 给 annje 发送悄悄话 (276 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 20:42:54

• 那就等着自讨没趣吧. -katies- ♀ 给 katies 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 20:45:55

• 我觉得不能去找那女的，那是自讨没趣。还是和LG -金色风铃- ♀ 给 金色风铃 发送悄悄话 金色风铃 的博客首页 (16 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 20:47:07

• 找那女的可以,但是不是这么谈,应该装着什么都不知道的样子,给她又成 -知福惜福- ♀ 给 知福惜福 发送悄悄话 知福惜福 的博客首页 (127 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 20:54:24

• 我觉得可以谈，既然是好朋友，当然可以谈。 不是当情敌那种谈 -Joyyu- ♀ 给 Joyyu 发送悄悄话 Joyyu 的博客首页 (71 bytes) () 12/29/2006 postreply 06:48:23

• stop loving your husband too much, and don't talk -wonder1- ♀ 给 wonder1 发送悄悄话 (200 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 21:00:08

• 呵呵，总之男的跟别的女的有什么，一定要去找女的谈 -annje- ♀ 给 annje 发送悄悄话 (868 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 22:34:53

• 两种选择：1。要够泼辣 2。要够狠毒和有心计 -LisaNY- ♀ 给 LisaNY 发送悄悄话 (643 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 23:32:38

• Go get her husband if he is likeable... -BigV8- ♂ 给 BigV8 发送悄悄话 (191 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 22:43:40

• 真不好意思，才看到你LG叫你写EMAIL给她 -annje- ♀ 给 annje 发送悄悄话 (604 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 22:54:51

• My husband still need her reports -little.me- ♀ 给 little.me 发送悄悄话 (298 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 23:08:02

• 9494！反正问她要REPORT也好，写绝交信也好 -annje- ♀ 给 annje 发送悄悄话 (279 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 23:17:24

• 是你的就是你的，不是你的你栏也拦不住 -little.me- ♀ 给 little.me 发送悄悄话 (177 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 23:24:09

• 切，你到底爱不爱你LG的？如果爱，不论几次 -annje- ♀ 给 annje 发送悄悄话 (459 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 23:35:53

• 我喜欢你的态度，够爽 -左右- ♀ 给 左右 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 12/29/2006 postreply 00:03:27

• 来来往往两年了，还没 -也算我一个- ♂ 给 也算我一个 发送悄悄话 (280 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 23:24:32

• I never talked about it to another soul in my real life -little.me- ♀ 给 little.me 发送悄悄话 (244 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 23:29:38

• 回复：I never talked about it to another soul in my real life -也算我一个- ♂ 给 也算我一个 发送悄悄话 (184 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 23:46:15

• You are a man, your speech has more authority -little.me- ♀ 给 little.me 发送悄悄话 (422 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 23:43:05

• 道理是如此。但授受不亲在国外的分寸不一 -也算我一个- ♂ 给 也算我一个 发送悄悄话 (34 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 23:51:38

• No one ask for 授受不亲 -little.me- ♀ 给 little.me 发送悄悄话 (133 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 23:54:28

• 好好好，过瘾过瘾过瘾,楼主啊，你就泼辣一些 -LisaNY- ♀ 给 LisaNY 发送悄悄话 (96 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 23:47:09

• I am not fat, not bad looking and not low level person -little.me- ♀ 给 little.me 发送悄悄话 (628 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 22:59:50

• Take a vocation with your husband...maybe on -BigV8- ♂ 给 BigV8 发送悄悄话 (65 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 23:06:02

• 你俩的性格之差也是个因素。你 -也算我一个- ♂ 给 也算我一个 发送悄悄话 (202 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 23:35:42

• Don't tell me that he is looking for true love now -little.me- ♀ 给 little.me 发送悄悄话 (148 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 23:47:49

• 楼主，问你个问题，可能有点难度 -LisaNY- ♀ 给 LisaNY 发送悄悄话 (171 bytes) () 12/29/2006 postreply 00:09:18

• He better get divorce or kill me first -little.me- ♀ 给 little.me 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 12/29/2006 postreply 00:11:43

• You better let your husband know it first!!! -LisaNY- ♀ 给 LisaNY 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 12/29/2006 postreply 00:15:05

• I know for sure that he knows. -little.me- ♀ 给 little.me 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 12/29/2006 postreply 00:16:39

• Then, you are OK, just let him go and trust him. -LisaNY- ♀ 给 LisaNY 发送悄悄话 (94 bytes) () 12/29/2006 postreply 00:20:53

• He knows that he is hurting me -little.me- ♀ 给 little.me 发送悄悄话 (79 bytes) () 12/29/2006 postreply 00:24:40

• the difference now is that he is trying to -little.me- ♀ 给 little.me 发送悄悄话 (136 bytes) () 12/29/2006 postreply 00:31:04

• 对对对，没错没错没错，我们都想替你捍卫 -LisaNY- ♀ 给 LisaNY 发送悄悄话 (189 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 23:40:53

• 妈的，这就叫皇帝不急急太监，哈哈，JOKING。 -annje- ♀ 给 annje 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 23:44:31

• Thanks anyway. -little.me- ♀ 给 little.me 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 12/28/2006 postreply 23:49:58

• 再看了楼主的跟贴,觉得楼主自个也该反省,别介意哈:) -甜酒甜- ♀ 给 甜酒甜 发送悄悄话 甜酒甜 的博客首页 (421 bytes) () 12/29/2006 postreply 04:39:46

• 可以看出。LZ夫妻刚开始利用那女的，现在LZ老公心出轨。 -katies- ♀ 给 katies 发送悄悄话 (116 bytes) () 12/29/2006 postreply 07:50:05

• Can't say it was 利用那女的 -little.me- ♀ 给 little.me 发送悄悄话 (208 bytes) () 12/29/2006 postreply 10:59:20

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