however, how come i don't see the writer "pretends" she has higher "moral standards"? All the people here talking about are "should we care moral issues" or "should we care our bahavior"?.... and finally, "what is right, and what is wrong?" of our behavior. If you think all Deng did are just "got lucky that the men truly loved her", that only tells you don't really know what love is about, and finally you don't have sense of right and wrong morally.