最近，他回来出差 17天，提出要在儿子家借住。儿子本来很不情愿，宁可给他爸出 旅馆钱。“多约几次咖啡，吃饭都行，但这样近距离，太别扭了。”
我，我的家人和朋友，都劝孩子， 应该让他爸住。因为 这 15年，他出钱 我出力。我们要心存感激，有人情味。
3/31/2024
I’m grateful dad provided for me financially
It’s hard to tithe. It shows how much he cares and loves me
He’s given me my education and provided for me happily
I’ll always be grateful. There’s true dedication and love behind it
But I’ve never known why he doesn’t want to be in my life
Why he doesn’t want to invest any time in the relationship
Why he doesn’t want to know me and parent me
He never wanted to hang out with me growing up
When we lived together he was never home
Never wanted to spend his time or attention on me
After I graduated it’s always me remembering to give him a quick call
2-3 minutes each time
We have nothing to talk about and he doesn’t make an effort
I forgive him and I love him
Loving him means im willing to give him another chance and build a relationship with him
But it needs to be at my pace
We need to build the relationship. If he wants to be in my life I will talk with him and we can get to know each other
But I am not a child still just always ready to trust him as a loving father
Jesus was loving but He was never a pushover or weak.
I prayed and God helped me figure out ^
昨天半夜到的。
平常 早睡早起的儿子，等他，还给爸爸煮了面条。
今天，人家睡醒了，落地还没 12小时，就 再次提设想了：
前夫 要带着 他全家 到 我和孩子的社区生活。
我离婚 15年了。老大 上班，买了房子，跟我住前后楼。老二 上大学，他的愿望也是 能有能力 在这个社区买房。
现在，前夫要带他全家 回社区定居。
我和孩子 心里挺膈应。是我们小气吗？
我们这个小社区，相对封闭。只有一条主路，一条河边路。我和孩子都喜欢在河边散步 聊天。
是好区，对他们的孩子也便利（但同等条件的社区也不少， 我想他是懒得研究。）。
儿子说，那就当是陌生人。视而不见。
我不想 父子形同陌路。
住得这么近，不顾孩子的感受，父子的心 就更远了。
不顾孩子感受这特性，倒是没变。怎么就没点长进呀？！
