Understand your frustration and disappointment, I agree that

your hu*****and should get more involved in your and your daughter's life. But to some extend, I can understand your hu*****and too...

To some people, work/career is very important, and maybe more important than everything else, and based on my observation, almost all the people who are really successful in their careers somewhat fit into this category, aka workaholic.

My neighbor is a parterner at PWC and he's always travelling around and never comes home before 9, his wife raised 4 kids on her own and does everything by herself (although we all wonder why she doesn't hire help, she says she likes to be busy and that makes her happy:))

It's really a personal choice, some people choose to work the hardest and feel fullfilled, and some people choose to balance their life with work and willing to pay the price for that.

At least you should feel lucky that your hu*****and is a reponsible person and he works so hard to ensure the financial stability for your family.

Maybe you guys can have a discussion and figure out a plan such as he only works one day on weekend and spend the other with family; or he comes home early to spend some quality time with you girls (dinner, play, stories...) and then work a couple of hours later...we don't have kids yet, but my hu*****and and I often take work home, but we are commited to work out and have dinner together most of the time, so far it works well for us.

Sorry I've talked too much...all I'm trying to say is that both of you have legit reasons to be frustrated, but there are ways to make both of you happy, if you are willing to make some compromises. Good luck!