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最近的研究表明60多岁的朋友给各类人提供意见会使自己的生活更为充实和有意义。
 
http://www.newswise.com/articles/people-in-their-60s-uniquely-benefit-from-giving-advice-despite-fewer-chances-to-offer-it
 
 

People in Their 60s Uniquely Benefit From Giving Advice Despite Fewer Chances to Offer It

Released: 8-Mar-2016 8:05 AM EST
Source Newsroom: American Sociological Association (ASA)

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Citations Social Psychology Quarterly, March-2016

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People in Their 60s Uniquely Benefit From Giving Advice Despite Fewer Chances to Offer it

Newswise — WASHINGTON, DC, March 8, 2016 — A new study reveals that individuals in their 60s who give advice to a broad range of people tend to see their lives as especially meaningful. At the same time, this happens to be the age when opportunities for dispensing advice become increasingly scarce.

According to the study, which appears in the March issue of Social Psychology Quarterly, individuals in their 60s who report giving advice to a wide variety of people—to family members, friends, neighbors, and strangers—see their lives as highly meaningful, while adults in that age group who dispense advice to fewer types of people are much less likely to report high life meaning.

“This association between advice giving and life meaning is not evident for other age groups,” said Markus H. Schafer, an assistant professor of sociology at the University of Toronto and the lead author of the study. “Overall, we interpret these findings to suggest that the developmental demands of late midlife—particularly the desire to contribute to others’ welfare and the fear of feeling ‘stagnant’—fit poorly with the social and demographic realties for this segment of the life course. Just when giving advice seems to be most important, opportunities for doing so seem to wane.”

Titled, “The Age-Graded Nature of Advice: Distributional Patterns and Implications for Life Meaning,” the study relies on a nationally representative sample of 2,583 U.S. adults who were 18 and above when they were surveyed in 2006.

Schafer and his co-author Laura Upenieks, a doctoral candidate in sociology at the University of Toronto, found that 21 percent of people in their 60s and 27 percent of people 70 or older reported giving advice to no one in the previous year. By comparison, only about 10 percent of people in their 20s (this group also included 18 and 19-year-olds), 30s, 40s, and 50s said they gave no advice in the past year.

“Conventional age norms suggest that the ideal mentor or advice-giver is someone who has a lot of life experience,” Schafer said. “However, compared to their younger counterparts, older adults occupy fewer social roles, are less socially active, and interact with a more restricted range of people. So, while the average 65-year-old may well have more wisdom than the average 30-year-old, demographic and social structure factors seem to provide the latter with more opportunity for actually dispensing advice.”

Some scholars have argued that the essence of mattering—the idea that one is meaningful and consequential to other people—is most under threat during late-middle age when many people retire and enter the “empty nest” phase of life, according to Schafer.

“The mattering perspective helps explain why it is this period of the life span, in particular, when it is important for people to feel like they can still have influence on others through actions such as giving advice,” Schafer said.

In terms of the study’s implications, Schafer said, “The results should prompt reflection on the social fabric of American communities and how late-middle age adults fit into the picture. Our findings underscore the importance of giving older adults occasions to share their wisdom and life experiences. Schools, churches, civic organizations, and other community groups could consider how to facilitate intergenerational mentorship experiences and to creatively enable more older adults to be advice-givers.”

 

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是不是说男人唠叨也行? -pichawxc- 给 pichawxc 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 03/08/2016 postreply 13:49:38

应该是吧,没有分男女。。。 -吃与活- 给 吃与活 发送悄悄话 吃与活 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 03/08/2016 postreply 13:52:08

那就建议一下 -claude888- 给 claude888 发送悄悄话 (146 bytes) () 03/08/2016 postreply 13:58:20

谢谢!如果把你锻炼的方法和收获写出来给网友参考,岂不更好? -吃与活- 给 吃与活 发送悄悄话 吃与活 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 03/08/2016 postreply 14:04:59

我每天踩Elliptical 30-35分钟。每五分钟难度加一等。单单的有氧运动不行。 -claude888- 给 claude888 发送悄悄话 (122 bytes) () 03/08/2016 postreply 14:10:02

可以根据此经验来锻炼,但不知坚持下去身体有何改善? -吃与活- 给 吃与活 发送悄悄话 吃与活 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 03/08/2016 postreply 14:15:27

体重减轻,神清气爽,精力大有提高 -claude888- 给 claude888 发送悄悄话 (307 bytes) () 03/08/2016 postreply 15:52:54

太好了,值得效仿 -吃与活- 给 吃与活 发送悄悄话 吃与活 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 03/08/2016 postreply 16:37:53

这样关节会酸痛吗?谢谢。 -swj2000- 给 swj2000 发送悄悄话 swj2000 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 03/08/2016 postreply 20:12:05

不痛,经常运动关节反而灵活。 -claude888- 给 claude888 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 03/09/2016 postreply 13:47:34

不是指在这个论坛上,基本上在日常生活中,老年人给出unsolicited建议,都是不太受欢迎的。除了需要帮助诚心请教的。 -闲情- 给 闲情 发送悄悄话 闲情 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 03/08/2016 postreply 14:12:14

嗯,现在60岁是中年人,在国家领导人中还是年轻人呢 -吃与活- 给 吃与活 发送悄悄话 吃与活 的博客首页 (56 bytes) () 03/08/2016 postreply 14:18:51

可能对着他们的视频进行指导和建议也是有用的。。可能效果比对一般人建议还会更好。 -pichawxc- 给 pichawxc 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 03/08/2016 postreply 14:27:01

实际上是他们在发表意见,没关系,对他们身体有好处就好。 -吃与活- 给 吃与活 发送悄悄话 吃与活 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 03/08/2016 postreply 16:39:13

一个85岁老太太收到我送的智能手机后学习速度惊人 -dudaan- 给 dudaan 发送悄悄话 dudaan 的博客首页 (185 bytes) () 03/08/2016 postreply 18:46:56

年龄不是衡量衰老与否的绝对标准。老太太的头脑也许六十岁还不到。 -吃与活- 给 吃与活 发送悄悄话 吃与活 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 03/08/2016 postreply 18:53:25

她三年前大病一场,几乎不行了,真没想到。 -dudaan- 给 dudaan 发送悄悄话 dudaan 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 03/08/2016 postreply 18:56:32

ted 上有个教育学家做过实验,把电脑放在一个几乎是与世隔绝的村庄,里面的人不懂英文,结果小孩子不仅自学学会了用电脑,还学会了英 -pamperedpaws- 给 pamperedpaws 发送悄悄话 pamperedpaws 的博客首页 (50 bytes) () 03/09/2016 postreply 17:28:20

嗯,但建议不要到健坛发贴,否则打几次架高血压发作还是木外算 -Manymore- 给 Manymore 发送悄悄话 Manymore 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 03/09/2016 postreply 08:57:20

不会的,长者激素水平都下降了,脾气好,不会吵架的 -吃与活- 给 吃与活 发送悄悄话 吃与活 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 03/09/2016 postreply 10:14:00

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