Psychologists and relationship experts observe that these serial marriages almost always follow an identical, highly predictable cycle.
A marriage track that repeats five times generally runs on a fixed loop:
- Stage 1: The Fantasy (The Highest Highs) 鸡冻
The relationship moves incredibly fast. They rush into marriage—often within months—believing this time is completely different. There is intense infatuation (love bombing), and the partner is heavily idealized. - Stage 2: The Friction (The Reality Check) 落地
As the honeymoon phase fades, the partner’s true nature emerges. Because the foundation was built on fantasy rather than deep compatibility, normal relationship friction quickly escalates into volatile conflict. - Stage 3: The Projection (Zero Accountability) 揪鸡毛
Instead of reflecting on their choice of partner, the serial divorcer projects all blame outward. The narrative becomes: "I am a victim of another toxic person." Because they do not look inward, they learn nothing from the conflict. - Stage 4: The Exit and Reset (The Crash) 两散
The marriage ends in an explosive or messy divorce. To cope with the pain and avoid self-reflection, they quickly jump back into the dating pool. The loneliness triggers the need for another "high," and the cycle resets with a new person who has the exact same traits.
