It's complicated. My father-in-law does not want to move at all.

 their current place for years. It's already a senior residence except it's independant living and it's a house(but in strata setting so they don't need to maintain their house on their own). They have tons of stuff there. By moving to an apartment they have to give up a lot of things. That's a big change of life style. Think about you spend 2M to live a less comfortable lifestyle? They probably can live much better by staying in their current place and hire a nurse+nanny (assume they can find some good ones). Money is not a major concern for all the children that's why no one is speaking up for anything. But there is some uneasy feeling that the brother-in-law is putting a lot of pressure to the inlaws to give up their place, share their bank account etc.etc.