WHen I was 16, there was a beautiful encount with a very talented and handsome boy. At that time, no words about "love", no hug or anything like this, only racing heart and red face. When we must say goodbye and went to different cities to attend the University, he asked me whether we could write to each other and keep in touch. I was frightened, thinking this was a very bad thing to do, I said "No". He was very dissapointed.
We only saw each other once in the home town street. For all these years, I forever remembered his dissapointed eyes, and I felt guilty and regreted about the "No" I told him.
I knew he came to US many many years ago, so did I. I never tried to contact him. However, a few years ago,I was encouraged by a friend who told me that it should be a beautiful thing to do. "If I were him I would love to hear from you." I took the advice and found him. I called him and wanted to apologize to him. A woman picked up the phone. She told me that she is his wife. I told her that I am a long lost friend of her hu*****and. She told me that she knew all her husnand old friends, never heard about me. Her voice sounded very rude! I was in shock! What a wife!
He called me back late and told me that he couldn't recall who I was. This time, I was very shocked and dissapointed. We never contact each other again. :)
I was never able to say my apology, no need at all. SInce then, I was totally relieved and let go of all my guilty feelings. The only thing left is the beautiful memory I will treasure all my life. ..:)
I don't want to speculate whether I should contact him. Maybe the other sisters can learn something. Time changes everything. :)