sound like you are "fixed" in your self-centered thoughts. Yes, Westerner doesn't mind to tell the kid who is their bio-father, but why you only think things from your own point of view? I agree with most people's feedback here, "you are a selfish man!"
this is my post that I replied to you last time.
"There are a lot of precedent case like yours. People made various choice according to their own circumstance. This is not your personal decision.
1.You must consult with your son's mother. If she is doing well, money is not a big concern for her, she must consider her hu*****and feelings and the best interest for the boy.
2. sound like your current wife is not an obstacle. She already agreed with you.
3. If your son's mother said No to you, don't feel dissapointed. Blood bond is always there. When your son grow up, he can make his own choice. A lot of adult children will feel grateful to have a bio-father who really cares about him and a step-father who raised him and love him.
4. You can consider about "participation" if the ex-GF's marriage fell apart for the other reasons, such as domestic violence. Then, if the mother doesn't want to take care of her son, or has financial trouble to take care of him, you can offer to help.
only my two cents.
You need to make your choice, not only from your own emotional need, but also consider the best interests for all the parties involved.
this is my post that I replied to you last time.
"There are a lot of precedent case like yours. People made various choice according to their own circumstance. This is not your personal decision.
1.You must consult with your son's mother. If she is doing well, money is not a big concern for her, she must consider her hu*****and feelings and the best interest for the boy.
2. sound like your current wife is not an obstacle. She already agreed with you.
3. If your son's mother said No to you, don't feel dissapointed. Blood bond is always there. When your son grow up, he can make his own choice. A lot of adult children will feel grateful to have a bio-father who really cares about him and a step-father who raised him and love him.
4. You can consider about "participation" if the ex-GF's marriage fell apart for the other reasons, such as domestic violence. Then, if the mother doesn't want to take care of her son, or has financial trouble to take care of him, you can offer to help.
only my two cents.
You need to make your choice, not only from your own emotional need, but also consider the best interests for all the parties involved.
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