I think your hubby is a really good man.

You suffered a lot of injustice in your life, esp. when you were young. It has definitely left some shadow in your adult life. You should learn to put all that behind, really have the full control of your life.

There are tow golden rules of hu*****and-wife relationship it know of. First, to respect and accept the person as he is. Don't try to change him, to appreciate his personalities and characters, both good and bad. Secondly, remember your home should be the place you both feel the most free, most comfortable and the safest place to be. Remember it belongs to both of you. Try to reduce tensions, discomfort and confrontation. The consequences of a lot of situations depend on how they are handled. You have to be intelligent and skilful at those moment.

Hope this helps. From what you wrote, your hubby is a mature, reasonable, intelligent and calm person. You are a very very lucky lady.