上来问一下，姐妹们在公司有没有遇到过这种情况？

今天在公司的break room端茶，遇到另外一个系的头儿，平时我和这老头也没啥交往，更没有过冲突，当时就我和他两人在break room里，打了个招呼Ｈi,他突然很严肃地对我说，“You know, as a person working in the lab, you should not be dressy."我当时都懵了，没反应过来，顺口说："Really?"这老头及接着有严肃地说："I've noticed several times that you were quite dressy at work." 我当时很气没再理他就走了，但是很气愤。他又不是我老板，就是也没资格管我怎么衣着吧？公司并没有dress code,我在实验室都是穿白大褂的。而且我自认也穿得并不过分，今天就是很普通的sweater sheath罩长袖毛衣，脚上是２吋跟的black long boots.平时有的时候穿裙子，但从来没有暴露，或奇装异服的打扮。其实我的衣着和这坛子里的姐妹们比，根本就算是”土“的，怎么在这美国老头嘴里倒成了"dressy"?
请问姐妹们有人遇到过这种情况吗？我该咋办？他这算不算Harassment, Discrimination?

Many many thanks.

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• No. I'd tell him: mind your own business! -iamyournewfriend- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/11/2008 postreply 10:33:54

• he is right if you are in chemistry area or biochemistry. -tonemimi- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/11/2008 postreply 10:38:06

• 回复：he is right if you are in chemistry area or biochemistry. -christmas2008- ♀ (381 bytes) () 12/11/2008 postreply 10:44:58

• 如果你真的觉得自己穿的没问题就不要理他好了 -西风雅雅- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/11/2008 postreply 10:49:31

• 你是什么lab啊。。我以前的实验室为了安全目的确实对服装有要求 -西风雅雅- ♀ (119 bytes) () 12/11/2008 postreply 10:46:07

• mass spectrometer lab. -christmas2008- ♀ (357 bytes) () 12/11/2008 postreply 10:50:51

• 咱俩做的差不多。。嘿嘿。。。没什么，不用理他好了 -西风雅雅- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/11/2008 postreply 10:53:19

• same type of job? shake hands. -christmas2008- ♀ (104 bytes) () 12/11/2008 postreply 10:56:11

• =)))))))))))) -西风雅雅- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/11/2008 postreply 10:59:37

• he is totally right. Be careful. -tonemimi- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/11/2008 postreply 10:57:04

• Shaking hand.I'm in mass lab. -tonemimi- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/11/2008 postreply 10:59:48

• honestly,he is nice and tell you what you should do.he can repor -tonemimi- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/11/2008 postreply 11:07:00

• he can report you.you are in trouble. -tonemimi- ♀ (31 bytes) () 12/11/2008 postreply 11:08:50

• Wow...scary:-) Seriously, what big trouble she can be in? -IndependentMind- ♂ (385 bytes) () 12/11/2008 postreply 11:33:46

• does she can pass the requiration of safety ? -tonemimi- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/11/2008 postreply 11:36:33

• Tell him "I don't think it's appropriate for you to say that to -快乐生活123- ♀ (74 bytes) () 12/11/2008 postreply 10:49:35

• Ask him to define "Dressy", then tell him GTFO. -independentmind- ♂ (0 bytes) () 12/11/2008 postreply 10:50:31

• What is GTFO? -christmas2008- ♀ (208 bytes) () 12/11/2008 postreply 10:53:06

• hehe, Get The Fxxk Off -滴在心里的雨- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/11/2008 postreply 10:58:19

• I won't. It was just a snarky comment, yet not -IndependentMind- ♂ (355 bytes) () 12/11/2008 postreply 11:05:36

• 一般来讲实验室是要穿合要求的'安全鞋',只是公司应该有 -刷子- ♀ (71 bytes) () 12/11/2008 postreply 10:55:07

• Acutally, I am much safer than a lot Americans. -christmas2008- ♀ (106 bytes) () 12/11/2008 postreply 11:02:12

• I have to say, it's really depend on managers. Since we have a -刷子- ♀ (209 bytes) () 12/11/2008 postreply 11:55:13

• 他更年期吧 -阿巧- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/11/2008 postreply 11:20:16

• :=)) Maybe , but I've never heard that man can also have menopau -christmas2008- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/11/2008 postreply 11:55:07

• 我倒觉得你反映过度。我想他大概真的认为你dressy. 又不是你老板，你就ignor 好了。 -woyawoya- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/11/2008 postreply 11:20:51

• 毕竟人家是头儿啊,你不高兴也不要转头就走了,比较没礼貌啦~~而且容易得罪人啊 -多情总被猪头恼- ♀ (323 bytes) () 12/11/2008 postreply 11:25:00

• 没错。personal and communication skills 还是挺重要的。 -woyawoya- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/11/2008 postreply 11:27:41

• I am not good at handling confrontation. The most natural -christmas2008- ♀ (330 bytes) () 12/11/2008 postreply 11:53:09

• 给你个招儿.送他一合黑巧克力,让他分泌些好的神经介质,管用! -shoeshoarder- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/11/2008 postreply 12:21:29

• 我觉得你有些defensive了~~~他说你不一定是针对你,你不用shock, -多情总被猪头恼- ♀ (391 bytes) () 12/11/2008 postreply 12:24:53

• It is not about confrontation, it is about communication. -洁心- ♀ (1261 bytes) () 12/11/2008 postreply 12:26:28

• very well said! -多情总被猪头恼- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/11/2008 postreply 12:32:01

• well said! -笛笛- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/11/2008 postreply 13:03:10

• You are so right. -proserpina- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/11/2008 postreply 13:05:48

• if he points out anything against the company policy or code -christmas2008- ♀ (181 bytes) () 12/11/2008 postreply 13:17:15

• You won't know that until you ask him to clarify and give him a -洁心- ♀ (83 bytes) () 12/11/2008 postreply 13:41:56

• 读到这样的帖子是幸运~~ -tuzhirong- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/11/2008 postreply 17:29:01

• 发个email给他说你当时有点shocked, 不应该这样走开，但让他具体解释哪里不appropriate -honghuahua- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/11/2008 postreply 13:53:28

• 穿的最好和 在公司姐妹们 相差不多. -BlackBanboo- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/11/2008 postreply 11:42:21

• If you address the same as others, you would lost yourself. -刷子- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/11/2008 postreply 14:17:10

• CO: 穿的最好和 在公司姐妹们 相差不多. -Lantana- ♀ (18 bytes) () 12/13/2008 postreply 15:58:30

• You should NOT come here and complain. You Should -lazy-cat- ♀ (220 bytes) () 12/11/2008 postreply 11:48:01

• agree. -proserpina- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/11/2008 postreply 12:04:08

• I was not complaining, but trying to see if anyone else in -christmas2008- ♀ (136 bytes) () 12/11/2008 postreply 13:19:11

• 那老头也不是无理取闹，如果他没说错，那你转身就走太没礼貌了 -超级大马甲- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/11/2008 postreply 13:16:49

• 说句很多人不爱听的话，中国人普遍的问题是，别人批评，首先想到的是fight back, 而不是自我反省。 -woyawoya- ♀ (98 bytes) () 12/11/2008 postreply 13:18:42

• 嗯，没有办法，女人天生爱美，如果没违反公司规章制度 -christmas2008- ♀ (89 bytes) () 12/11/2008 postreply 13:21:10

• 工作时穿的professional，符合职业特性，其实更美。 -woyawoya- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/11/2008 postreply 13:47:14

• 大学faculty and stuff dress code: 不能穿紧身衣,裤 -梅子123- ♀ (48 bytes) () 12/11/2008 postreply 13:28:12

• ask you co-workers for their opinion. they should know you and h -dacong- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/11/2008 postreply 15:42:03

• Ask him: what's the problem being dressy? -oops_yz- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/11/2008 postreply 17:36:42