It is not about confrontation, it is about communication.

If he is not clear and specific about his comments, you always have the option to ask him to clarify by simply asking:"Can you be more specific?"

I honestly don't think he was confronting you or was trying to embarrass you in any way. Quite on the contrary, I think he was trying to be helpful by pointing something out to you, albeit the way he expressed himself was a bit blunt. However, the intention behind his comment seems to be out of his concern, perhaps, for safety.

This is like anything else, if someone makes a comment that seems to be blunt to you, don't take it at face value and feel insulted right away. You have a responsibility to communicate back and ask them to clarify in order to find out the real intention or message behind their comments. Some people's communication style can be very straight and to-the-point, don't be put off by that. Communication is a two way street, you need to be an active participant in it as well, running away feeling hurt won't solve the problem.

And please, don't use words like "discrimination" or "harassment" so lightly. Most of the problems come down to people not knowing how to communicate effectively, they have nothing to do with discrimination or harassment.

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• very well said! -多情总被猪头恼- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/11/2008 postreply 12:32:01

• well said! -笛笛- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/11/2008 postreply 13:03:10

• You are so right. -proserpina- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/11/2008 postreply 13:05:48

• if he points out anything against the company policy or code -christmas2008- ♀ (181 bytes) () 12/11/2008 postreply 13:17:15

• You won't know that until you ask him to clarify and give him a -洁心- ♀ (83 bytes) () 12/11/2008 postreply 13:41:56

• 读到这样的帖子是幸运~~ -tuzhirong- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/11/2008 postreply 17:29:01