我该怎么教三年级女儿数学呢?

I got a big headache teaching my 8 year old daughter math! I felt painful!
She is a good reader. I think that is why she is in the enrich class of third grade. In her school, there is one enrich class in every grade. Each grade has 4 or five classes. At the end of the semester, the third graders will take a set of exams to decide who will qualify the gifted program--which selects only 8% of the students(one class every 3 schools in the district).
I think her math is the weakness. So I really wanted to do something to help. But I guess I was not a good teacher because my daughter often takes a long time to understand what I taught her. Both of us felt frustrated. My disappointment often showed on my face. She once cried, and said, "I know I am stupid."
Yes, I really hope she could get the opportunity to get into the gifted program. However, I do not want to let our lives be ruined by it.
I began to think whether I was teaching her in the wrong way, or I was expecting too much from her about how fast she must master a concept or a skill. I really don't know what is the average time of third graders understanding a new concept such as long division, or simplifying a fraction, or changing a fraction into a decimal. For my daughter, I gave her two lessons about long division, each 20 minutes long. Only at the end, she understood it. She then spent two weeks to practice long division, 1 or 2 problems every day. she seemed to master it. But one months later without any practice, she forgot how to do it!  For simplifying a fraction, I drew diagrams, and then taught her step by step. It took her 30 minutes to understand it. Is she too slow?
If she is really slow in math, I am thinking I need to stop pushing her. 
I got tired. But I am still hoping if it is my wrong way of teaching that caused our frustration, then she still has a chance.
 
Help! Somebody! Please!

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• 先找本书让她看看，不懂的讲讲。 -尚宫娘娘- ♀ (0 bytes) () 09/26/2013 postreply 08:36:20

• 还是送苦闷吧 -keessa- ♀ (45 bytes) () 09/26/2013 postreply 08:37:19

• 适合KUMON -Lily3- ♀ (0 bytes) () 09/26/2013 postreply 08:41:12

• 我最近翻了本书： -incywincy- ♀ (99 bytes) () 09/26/2013 postreply 08:41:28

• 三年级开始就会除法和分数已经满超前的了。 -茶园15- ♀ (185 bytes) () 09/26/2013 postreply 08:42:41

• 没错，刚三年级就会分数小数的，基本上五年级就可以学几何了 -keessa- ♀ (0 bytes) () 09/26/2013 postreply 09:43:10

• 妈妈太心急了，要是学校孩子的long division 都40分钟搞定，老师不太好当了。 -茶园15- ♀ (0 bytes) () 09/26/2013 postreply 09:50:54

• 有那种教小学数学的网站，像Dreambox，在游戏中就把数学概念弄清了。 -芹菜妈- ♀ (0 bytes) () 09/26/2013 postreply 08:42:41

• 回复：我该怎么教三年级女儿数学呢? -红花雨- ♀ (266 bytes) () 09/26/2013 postreply 08:43:31

• 回复：我该怎么教三年级女儿数学呢? -qunshen- ♀ (480 bytes) () 09/26/2013 postreply 08:45:06

• 敬仰敬仰！怎么教数学，美国一帮专家还没研究出来好办法。 -凤姐虎弟- ♀ (509 bytes) () 09/26/2013 postreply 08:49:04

• 还有，美国教数学是重复教 -凤姐虎弟- ♀ (204 bytes) () 09/26/2013 postreply 09:02:53

• Yes, obviously, she is slow -Madrigal- ♀ (62 bytes) () 09/26/2013 postreply 08:53:54

• 三年级学校还没有教到这些。你给她多做点题。 -飘雪的日子- ♀ (0 bytes) () 09/26/2013 postreply 08:59:39

• 每个孩子都有他擅长的地方，我儿子，再怎么请私人教练，足球也只是个跑龙套的， -飞鸟和鱼- ♀ (239 bytes) () 09/26/2013 postreply 09:00:38

• Thank you for your quick responses! -苗苗妈- ♀ (790 bytes) () 09/26/2013 postreply 09:06:32

• Concept is more important than drill at this age. -jit- ♀ (0 bytes) () 09/26/2013 postreply 09:09:53

• 反对！Drill is a big part in math. 除非孩子自己是天才。 -凤姐虎弟- ♀ (0 bytes) () 09/26/2013 postreply 09:12:06

• drill还是不要强迫的好，适得其反 -keessa- ♀ (0 bytes) () 09/26/2013 postreply 09:15:31

• Drill和强迫不是一件事，不能混在一起谈。 -凤姐虎弟- ♀ (0 bytes) () 09/26/2013 postreply 09:18:25

• 才一二年级的，搞补习搞drill的，极少有孩子会是自觉自愿的 -keessa- ♀ (0 bytes) () 09/26/2013 postreply 09:22:40

• 你这看贴也得drill一下。人家说了三年级，你还在一二年级。 -凤姐虎弟- ♀ (0 bytes) () 09/26/2013 postreply 09:52:50

• 老花眼了. 不过换成三四年级也一样的意思 -keessa- ♀ (0 bytes) () 09/26/2013 postreply 10:00:10

• Drills还是需要的,我娃Dreambox都做到fraction了，但基本的加减法还出错 -芹菜妈- ♀ (64 bytes) () 09/26/2013 postreply 09:20:55

• 我觉得孩子不太适合GT Program. 也不用超前的教她。在普通班里按部就班把数学学好就行。可以试试Kumon。 -亦舒- ♀ (0 bytes) () 09/26/2013 postreply 09:22:12

• 靠家长使劲提前教而进了GT班的孩子，费这么大劲，进去以后孩子会舒服吗？ -kozy- ♀ (273 bytes) () 09/26/2013 postreply 09:18:44

• 。。。。。。。算是坛里流行BSO的结果 -keessa- ♀ (0 bytes) () 09/26/2013 postreply 09:24:58

• 我觉得她娃挺好的，可能妈妈不太会教再加上心急了一点。像我教我娃中文， -芹菜妈- ♀ (153 bytes) () 09/26/2013 postreply 09:27:46

• 就是因为没有超前或者超前不够多就认为孩子数学不行？ -阳光点点- ♀ (0 bytes) () 09/26/2013 postreply 09:27:50

• 你先去弄明白3年级学什么数学啊。分数化简，分数变小数好像不是3年级吧。4年级才学除法啊。 -monochrome- ♀ (0 bytes) () 09/26/2013 postreply 09:29:39

• 不是很确定，但好像是preAlgebra吧，不超前的话是六年级学 -keessa- ♀ (0 bytes) () 09/26/2013 postreply 09:32:33

• 你是对的, 是高年级的小学才可能学.回复：不是很确定，但好像是preAlgebra吧，不超前的话是六年级学 -CarriePanda- ♀ (0 bytes) () 09/26/2013 postreply 09:55:44

• 应该好好保护苗苗，千万不要拔苗助长！ -Microgene- ♂ (71 bytes) () 09/26/2013 postreply 09:29:50

• 你确实不是好老师，劝你别教了。你女儿数学不slow，只是不是pg牛蛙而已。 -听听意见- ♀ (91 bytes) () 09/26/2013 postreply 09:35:27

• 怎么知道不是PG呢？ -keessa- ♀ (0 bytes) () 09/26/2013 postreply 09:36:27

• PG娃自己就能搞清楚了，不清楚的也一点就透。不信问7天：） -听听意见- ♀ (0 bytes) () 09/26/2013 postreply 09:42:21

• 每个孩子能自己整明白和整不明白的东西不一样。那个测出来的PG也是个忽悠 -keessa- ♀ (71 bytes) () 09/26/2013 postreply 09:48:35

• 我们家两个都是这样, 没去测过, 难道都是PG娃? LOL.. 回复：PG娃自己就能搞清楚了，不清楚的也一点就透。不信问7天：） -CarriePanda- ♀ (0 bytes) () 09/26/2013 postreply 09:52:45

• 不用着急，孩子才三年级。不push，但让她去考GT，考上了就去念。又不是所有GT的孩子数学都那样好。 -MusicXYZ- ♀ (79 bytes) () 09/26/2013 postreply 09:52:36

• 被俺爸痛苦推过的人帮你女儿说句话 -olga87- ♀ (1494 bytes) () 09/26/2013 postreply 09:58:43

• 好奇问一下哈，你指的中小学时期最拿手的科目是什么？ -芹菜妈- ♀ (0 bytes) () 09/26/2013 postreply 10:06:08

• 哈哈，你看我旧帖就能总结出来了 -olga87- ♀ (0 bytes) () 09/26/2013 postreply 10:10:02

• well said -qiaomaidou6- ♀ (0 bytes) () 09/26/2013 postreply 10:19:37

• 谢谢,谢谢!此贴实在有用! -苗苗妈- ♀ (1834 bytes) () 09/26/2013 postreply 10:32:46

• 好可爱的聪明孩子！ -olga87- ♀ (0 bytes) () 09/26/2013 postreply 10:54:24

• kids are developing. it might be hard for her today but will be -qiaomaidou6- ♀ (721 bytes) () 09/26/2013 postreply 11:53:12

• 总结的好， 都是 -紫玉兰紫丁香- ♀ (357 bytes) () 09/26/2013 postreply 13:30:08

• 赞一个！偶像！ -小土豆- ♀ (0 bytes) () 09/27/2013 postreply 14:54:38

• 既然她已经在enrich class里了，就说明她的数学并没差到哪里去。不着急，慢慢来吧。 -旖旎风光- ♀ (0 bytes) () 09/26/2013 postreply 09:59:51

• 你所教的东西超出她年龄范围的认知能力， 就算这个月会做， 也是强化训练 -绿色风铃草- ♀ (22 bytes) () 09/26/2013 postreply 10:04:54

• 回复：我该怎么教三年级女儿数学呢? -pingtoronto- ♀ (649 bytes) () 09/26/2013 postreply 10:05:39

• There Are So Many Ways To Be Smart -桑青- ♀ (101 bytes) () 09/26/2013 postreply 10:25:42

• 送回我国几年再回来，保证数学没问题啦 -bithandy- ♂ (0 bytes) () 09/26/2013 postreply 15:18:46

• 别浪费时间了， 孩子是不可教的， 生就什么水平就是什么水平。 -打工的- ♂ (0 bytes) () 09/26/2013 postreply 18:20:15

• 推荐一个数学教材。houghton mifflin编的小学数学教材。有些州在用。我女儿3年纪， -西山- ♀ (544 bytes) () 09/26/2013 postreply 19:00:32

• Leave it to her teacher! -sydneywil- ♂ (0 bytes) () 09/26/2013 postreply 21:58:16

• LZ 的英文比较烂。还有上中文网站，为什么用洋文？ -Clipsalw- ♀ (0 bytes) () 09/26/2013 postreply 22:20:37

• 回复：我该怎么教三年级女儿数学呢? -ci2012- ♀ (174 bytes) () 09/27/2013 postreply 08:01:48

• 慢慢来吧 -didadida- ♀ (0 bytes) () 09/27/2013 postreply 14:43:16

• 回复：我该怎么教三年级女儿数学呢? -niuyear- ♂ (228 bytes) () 09/27/2013 postreply 14:48:51

• 回复：我该怎么教三年级女儿数学呢? -pingtoronto- ♀ (514 bytes) () 09/27/2013 postreply 18:48:15