回复：看了你的故事，真得觉得很难受。

I think moving out for a while is a good idea.

Or, you can do a calculation with your hu*****and to see how much for him to pay if divorce. First, there is child support calculator, I put your hu*****and's net income as $14000 per month, yours $7000 per month, he needs to pay you $2100 per month for child support if you divorce if in CA. Second, you pay your apartment, he pays his [house]. Less tax deduction for him also. Anyway, it is always more expensive to divorce and let the number persuade him.

If he does not want to you to leave, make sure he agrees to pay at least 2/3 of the house expense.

If I were you, I probably left him already. I won't want to live with somebody who makes my life miserable. Kids do not do well in a house that mom is not happy.

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• It is not about money, but his manner and attitude about life. -Evergreeen- ♀ (0 bytes) () 05/06/2008 postreply 09:27:24

• I know. But if not divorce, one has to convince him that -N.- ♀ (104 bytes) () 05/06/2008 postreply 09:29:30

• 有这么多？而且你要以为孩子的妈妈跟爸爸离婚了，他 -yellowlemon- ♀ (136 bytes) () 05/06/2008 postreply 09:29:39

• 离婚了再找，也可能找个爱孩子和老婆的正常人，总比这个非正常人强， -缘生乎- ♀ (22 bytes) () 05/06/2008 postreply 09:33:57

• 多去外嫁坛看看，就知道容不容易了 -yellowlemon- ♀ (0 bytes) () 05/06/2008 postreply 09:35:18

• 我就是看了才觉得永远有机会找到爱你的人。 -缘生乎- ♀ (0 bytes) () 05/06/2008 postreply 09:37:40

• 以前我也想过，是不是我这个老公找错了，但是要我 -yellowlemon- ♀ (274 bytes) () 05/06/2008 postreply 09:45:52

• 人一生只找一个爱你和你爱的人结婚就行了，再多的癞蛤蟆也只是癞蛤蟆。 -缘生乎- ♀ (0 bytes) () 05/06/2008 postreply 10:48:34

• 再有你要是在婚姻里，想跟你认真的人也不会多。 -缘生乎- ♀ (0 bytes) () 05/06/2008 postreply 10:52:25

• 你要是在婚姻里，跟你想认真的人也不多。 -缘生乎- ♀ (0 bytes) () 05/06/2008 postreply 10:53:16