状告老板!here is what I said to HR,各位大虾有何建议？

I do not want to cause any problems.I like XX company and try to do a good job.
Please look at my weekly project report and timesheet,remote log in time to see my work record and the number of hours I am at work weekly(60-70hrs/week for the last month).I want to be a part of the team and be productive.

Since I started at XX, A(my boss) has been treating me differently from the others.I cannot figure out why? (Perhaps it is because another guy hired me or the color of my hair or perhaps because I am Chinese???)
I have tried hard to please her and show her I am a good employee.
I have many good e-mail feedbacks from marketing department.(print several emails)
I do not waste time talking or being idle. I attempt to get all of my projects done on time.I have improved my skill set by self-learned methods on my own.I am always on time and usually here late!

Issues:

1. No encouragement: Never tells me I am doing good job or being appreciated. However goes out of way to tell others they are doing well, in front of others.
2. No evaluation of any kind since I started: Never told if I am doing well or bad.
3. No interaction with me on a personal level, I am excluded and felt like I am not part of the team.(never asked anything about my family,kids,weekend.She talk such things with others everyday.)
4. Ribbons event: She gave ribbon to all except me for a recent project,singled me out,D(also a new employee)did nothing for the project,he got ribbon.I did not directly code,but did some test and support the team for doing other projects.She makes me feel like I am not part of the team!
5. No training:
a. Afforded training to D twice ,and F,T...,I am the only new employee who had no training so far,when I asked about it she said she had no budget or no programs for me.but their training is also just what i need!
b. When asked for help ,She only just says look it up and will not explain.

6. Different treatment regarding time off. (T got extra day off for working Overtime, I got nothing)
7. Not giving me projects in the standard method of operation:
a. Tech Documentation:not updated after changing.
b. Estimation of developing time:not giving reasonable developing hours for the project
c. Unreasonable requirements (ask me to use only 10 sql procedures!,I used 48 before,decreased to 24 after recode,She did not say anything good,but gave further order to use 10 sql procedures,which she never asked to other developer,I discussed with my co-worker,they are shocked!)
d. Threatened with a written warning, if work not done on time. no one else was threatened.all have projects past the due date.
e. A will not give an explanation to me of how I am to do a project and once I get it finished she adds and deletes parts of it at will without explanations. Adding complexities and difficulties
f. Prior to due dates she assigned many other projects which caused the original date to be pushed back but she still held me to the original date.

Conclusion:
What I believe and feel is that A is doing whatever she can to discourage me or force me to quit.

I am not going to quit! All I want is to be treated fairly and equally. If I do not understand something then she should spend time to help me

找HR谈后，说要进行调查，接下来会安排我和老板以及HR沟通，下步如何应对？目前我只是说It is against Equal Employment Opportunity, 是否算workplace discrimination ，证据是否足够?各位大虾有何建议？

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• move on. look for another position -leonlz99- ♂ (52 bytes) () 09/20/2008 postreply 07:03:27

• only half a year for this position,so I hope to keep -BioToIT- ♀ (107 bytes) () 09/20/2008 postreply 07:15:36

• 回复：move on. look for another position -awry- ♀ (50 bytes) () 09/22/2008 postreply 07:29:30

• don't do that! -一次性ID的外衣- ♂ (553 bytes) () 09/20/2008 postreply 07:19:56

• 回复：don't do that!-very useful input! Thank you. -potter.harry- ♀ (0 bytes) () 09/20/2008 postreply 07:41:40

• 3Q！想借你的魔杖挥一挥，让老板们都变天使：-） -一次性ID的外衣- ♂ (0 bytes) () 09/20/2008 postreply 08:00:24

• Fighting Back is always what our Chinese lack of. -百万富翁- ♂ (15 bytes) () 10/05/2008 postreply 10:17:19

• What's the charge? -胡说之- ♂ (39 bytes) () 09/20/2008 postreply 07:20:48

• Equal Employment Opportunity -BioToIT- ♀ (0 bytes) () 09/20/2008 postreply 08:02:57

• Is your job unionized? -胡说之- ♂ (141 bytes) () 09/20/2008 postreply 09:27:19

• Yes,It is a big and famous company -biotoit- ♀ (0 bytes) () 09/20/2008 postreply 09:29:59

• That's good -胡说之- ♂ (69 bytes) () 09/20/2008 postreply 09:39:28

• There is no union for programmer -yls- ♀ (258 bytes) () 09/21/2008 postreply 03:49:39

• 我也不主张状告老板。赶紧 -iamsmart- ♀ (213 bytes) () 09/20/2008 postreply 07:35:45

• (correction)以至于形成不良心理习惯 -iamsmart- ♀ (0 bytes) () 09/20/2008 postreply 07:36:56

• 回复：状告老板!here is what I said to HR,各位大虾有何建议？ -跳蚤- ♀ (297 bytes) () 09/20/2008 postreply 07:43:17

• 这里有一个心态问题, 总拿自己当盘菜. 如何改呢? -patricia_432- ♀ (0 bytes) () 09/20/2008 postreply 07:59:42

• 你如何下这个结论的"总拿自己当盘菜"?改? -BioToIT- ♀ (44 bytes) () 09/20/2008 postreply 08:05:27

• I'm thinking it's opposite. -patricia_432- ♀ (147 bytes) () 09/20/2008 postreply 08:16:26

• Wrong, A just does not need her and does not want her -ntking- ♂ (381 bytes) () 09/20/2008 postreply 08:29:58

• Why the boss doesn't need her? Why did LZ get the position in th -patricia_432- ♀ (285 bytes) () 09/20/2008 postreply 09:12:06

• Thanks,I think it is another director who interviewed -BioToIT- ♀ (184 bytes) () 09/20/2008 postreply 09:21:45

• 回复：回复：状告老板!here is what I said to HR,各位大虾有何建议？ -BioToIT- ♀ (168 bytes) () 09/20/2008 postreply 08:01:31

• Look for another job, you never win this case...Good luck! -xian_ke_lai- ♂ (0 bytes) () 09/20/2008 postreply 07:56:39

• 难道就我一个人支持楼主? -含娜- ♀ (209 bytes) () 09/20/2008 postreply 08:12:38

• Thanks.难道老板不会因此收敛些？ -BioToIT- ♀ (44 bytes) () 09/20/2008 postreply 08:15:11

• Not that easy to find a new job at this moment. -patricia_432- ♀ (65 bytes) () 09/20/2008 postreply 08:18:42

• 我也支持！ -swj2000- ♀ (278 bytes) () 09/20/2008 postreply 09:10:26

• 俺200%支持你和lz，和丫斗争到底~~ -澳洲老土- ♂ (0 bytes) () 09/20/2008 postreply 13:55:40

• 俺200%支持你 = 400% 支持含娜~~ -taizhou- ♂ (0 bytes) () 09/20/2008 postreply 15:33:43

• Two suggestions -ntking- ♂ (791 bytes) () 09/20/2008 postreply 08:18:45

• Missing words: "give themselves a shot" -ntking- ♂ (0 bytes) () 09/20/2008 postreply 08:20:33

• Thank you all!,but不是征求是否告老板。我已经告了 -BioToIT- ♀ (39 bytes) () 09/20/2008 postreply 08:19:21

• You have done your turn -ntking- ♂ (612 bytes) () 09/20/2008 postreply 08:24:51

• our company has the policy that any individual who -BioToIT- ♀ (159 bytes) () 09/20/2008 postreply 08:35:09

• Ok, why don't just do that? -ntking- ♂ (176 bytes) () 09/20/2008 postreply 08:38:37

• I will wait to see their reaction,no hurry,right? -BioToIT- ♀ (6 bytes) () 09/20/2008 postreply 08:45:41

• 回复：You have done your turn -一次性ID的外衣- ♂ (385 bytes) () 09/20/2008 postreply 09:00:47

• i think it's better to be kept for a little longer so LZ can hav -dengji- ♀ (324 bytes) () 09/20/2008 postreply 09:57:18

• 对。浪费时间精力。不过既然告了，可以改一下陈述。 -sgbigsell- ♂ (408 bytes) () 09/24/2008 postreply 09:36:17

• My support: You should give your 100% effort in it -全信书- ♂ (1994 bytes) () 09/20/2008 postreply 09:05:11

• Thank you so much! That is also what I thought before going -BioToIT- ♀ (94 bytes) () 09/20/2008 postreply 09:15:00

• can't agree more."people learn to live with each other" -水门汀- ♀ (16 bytes) () 09/20/2008 postreply 10:26:58

• 顶顶顶~~，非常顶~~~ -澳洲老土- ♂ (0 bytes) () 09/20/2008 postreply 13:54:16

• 回复：My support: You should give your 100% effort in it -德州乡巴- ♀ (758 bytes) () 09/20/2008 postreply 18:22:26

• BioToIT，你几天没回来，怎么一回来就弄这么大动静~~ -澳洲老土- ♂ (402 bytes) () 09/20/2008 postreply 14:10:16

• Thank you, 无奈，一直忙着加班赶她布置的项目 -BioToIT- ♀ (171 bytes) () 09/20/2008 postreply 14:26:13

• 感觉不是马屁没拍到马屁股上，就是不够intensive.... -澳洲老土- ♂ (114 bytes) () 09/20/2008 postreply 14:41:39

• then I agree I should improve马屁功,haha -BioToIT- ♀ (0 bytes) () 09/20/2008 postreply 14:48:18

• 哈哈~~，号召职坛xdjm一起练~~ -澳洲老土- ♂ (0 bytes) () 09/20/2008 postreply 15:06:33

• 换了是我的话可能会努力找一个工作然后再告HR -天天快乐吗- ♀ (0 bytes) () 09/20/2008 postreply 16:18:00

• 这是正道。 -ranch99- ♀ (222 bytes) () 09/24/2008 postreply 13:24:02

• 支持你.佩服 -ellee- ♀ (266 bytes) () 09/20/2008 postreply 20:56:14

• 你的信应该着重写事实，少写自己的感觉或猜测 -spagetti- ♀ (0 bytes) () 09/20/2008 postreply 22:22:49

• 回复：状告老板!here is what I said to HR,各位大虾有何建议？ -thankssomuch- ♀ (584 bytes) () 09/23/2008 postreply 10:48:34

• Go-ahead! I fully support you! -bluevelvet2007- ♀ (349 bytes) () 09/25/2008 postreply 09:20:45

• 不打无准备的仗 -宾州房客- ♂ (279 bytes) () 09/28/2008 postreply 14:55:55

• HR is never on your side, document everything and only focus on -Intelligent- ♂ (560 bytes) () 09/29/2008 postreply 12:59:29

• Good Suggestion. Don't mix up personal feeling w/ bussiness -百万富翁- ♂ (103 bytes) () 10/05/2008 postreply 10:20:08

• 同意宾州房客的话 -kiim- ♀ (350 bytes) () 09/30/2008 postreply 19:39:26

• 楼上的话太CHINESE了。该出手就出手，该说话就得说。 -百万富翁- ♂ (34 bytes) () 10/05/2008 postreply 10:22:38

• 同样的话，多从POSITIVE的口气去说。因为你还没有找律师。 -百万富翁- ♂ (0 bytes) () 10/05/2008 postreply 10:24:57

• 从上面这么多的回复就可以看出，为什么中国人好欺负。 -百万富翁- ♂ (0 bytes) () 10/05/2008 postreply 10:26:53