To 公司边缘人 : reconmandations

来源: mickey222 于 2007-05-11 21:45:59 [] [旧帖] [给我悄悄话] 阅读数 : (2851 bytes)

My 2 cents:

If I were you, I will do the following. I believe you have a case, but you need to play by the rule:

1. Be professional to him at the work place. If this happens again, tell him calmly, clearly and firmly: Please don't do this gain, I don't like it. Some time you should use moderate force to get out of it to show that you are NOT voluntary in this case. This is not an office romance case.

2. Don't talk to HR or your manager YET. Like ringdover said, HR will not necessarily protect that individual, but HR will definitely protect the company. You need to collect some evidence inside and outside of company before you go to them. Such as claim getting headache with no obvious cause at work, seek a psycho doc's help, write private email to a friend (copy yourself) about the situation as one of your effort to seek help. Those are circumstantial evidence, most court accepts depends on the nature of the case.

Once you have some outside evidence in hand, if he does it again, write a log to record every time where, when he did what. If you have a witness, it will be better. You can hold on to a couple more time since you are an Asian. You always can claim later that you didn't report it the first time it happened due to you culture background and education back ground. It can be reasonable lead to blame to that person, he is not only sexually harassing you, but he is also taking advantage of your race.

3. You should get sick more often than usual due to the stress. Then talk to your supervisor and subsequently, HR.

4. Only give out copies, never the original evidence in case of law suit.

5. HR should start an investigation and get back to you with the results. Get yourself an attorney as well in case you get into legal proceeding. If HR did take it seriously, then like Laotu said: congratulations, you may not need to work any more.

6. You should talk to one or two people (not your manager and HR) in the company as indirect witness in case you can't find a direct witness. You actually can set up something to make a witness if you plan well.

7. Be strong for your self and your family. In this society, everything plays by rule, as long as you play by rule. They can't harm you. You should be compensated somehow since all of this is happened at work. The key is you have the "DAMAGE", emotionally, then leads to physically you are disturbed and can't perform you job well here or there.

8. Don't tell HR you have an attorney unless it is necessary. Don't tell them you will proceed to law suit until you have to. Otherwise, always play a role as a little, weak, poor Asian girl who was taken advantage by a white man. You will gain a lot of sympathy. Don't show the last card until you have to.

Good Luck!


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• Sorry: Poin 5 should be if HR did NOT take it seriouly.... -mickey222- ♀ 给 mickey222 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 05/11/2007 postreply 21:38:18

• NOD: recommendations -简洁- ♀ 给 简洁 发送悄悄话 (172 bytes) () 05/11/2007 postreply 22:07:02

• with my poor English? no. I am not... -mickey222- ♀ 给 mickey222 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 05/11/2007 postreply 22:18:19

• 她自己这样一再退让息事宁人，快乐么？ -布衣之才- ♂ 给 布衣之才 发送悄悄话 布衣之才 的博客首页 (230 bytes) () 05/11/2007 postreply 21:57:47

• I didn't reconmand her 息事宁人 -mickey222- ♀ 给 mickey222 发送悄悄话 (84 bytes) () 05/11/2007 postreply 22:01:41

• 不是对你的评论。借你的地对她说话。我们大家都给她精神上鼓励支持 -布衣之才- ♂ 给 布衣之才 发送悄悄话 布衣之才 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 05/11/2007 postreply 22:09:40

• Agree! Plan carefully both strategy and tactic.... -mickey222- ♀ 给 mickey222 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 05/11/2007 postreply 22:11:11

• take steps -mondayadvisor- ♀ 给 mondayadvisor 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 05/11/2007 postreply 22:09:56

• 完全同意mickey222 的高见！ 不过我想咱这当事人没这水平做 -美国老土- ♂ 给 美国老土 发送悄悄话 美国老土 的博客首页 (319 bytes) () 05/11/2007 postreply 22:10:50

• take actions right way -mondayadvisor- ♀ 给 mondayadvisor 发送悄悄话 (537 bytes) () 05/11/2007 postreply 22:17:26

• Although thoretically she has every right to do so -mickey222- ♀ 给 mickey222 发送悄悄话 (253 bytes) () 05/11/2007 postreply 22:28:09

• ringdove case is a sexual harassment -mondayadvisor- ♀ 给 mondayadvisor 发送悄悄话 (541 bytes) () 05/11/2007 postreply 22:38:14

• I know it is not pleasant for her. I can't see it is life threat -mickey222- ♀ 给 mickey222 发送悄悄话 (419 bytes) () 05/11/2007 postreply 22:45:47

• many girls murdered by those kind of admirers in US -mondayadvisor- ♀ 给 mondayadvisor 发送悄悄话 (57 bytes) () 05/11/2007 postreply 22:57:04

• The white coworker can't be an important role -lhan- ♀ 给 lhan 发送悄悄话 (212 bytes) () 05/11/2007 postreply 22:25:07

• It doesn't matter if the white guy is important or not -mickey222- ♀ 给 mickey222 发送悄悄话 (365 bytes) () 05/11/2007 postreply 22:33:34

• google sexual harassment -美国老土- ♂ 给 美国老土 发送悄悄话 美国老土 的博客首页 (279 bytes) () 05/11/2007 postreply 22:25:44

• 对事不对人：好像记得有些case说女方穿的很性感，引起争论。 -天真- ♀ 给 天真 发送悄悄话 天真 的博客首页 (79 bytes) () 05/12/2007 postreply 05:46:12

• 我们从这个问题中应吸取教训 -如洋- ♀ 给 如洋 发送悄悄话 (567 bytes) () 05/12/2007 postreply 06:02:45

• very good and professional advise. -dummyhead- ♂ 给 dummyhead 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 05/12/2007 postreply 06:45:33

• Sure you know what you guys are talking about? -CatcherInTheRye- ♂ 给 CatcherInTheRye 发送悄悄话 (1095 bytes) () 05/12/2007 postreply 12:31:22

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