Do you love him?

I am not sure if you still have the feeling for him. If you do, then I think there are something you can do before getting divorce.

Relationship needs lots of efforts to maintain. There will be issues and problems, running away is not the solution. I think you should sit down and express your feelings. Seems he is very nice to his family, you are part of his family, then he should be nice to you too.

Tell him what you like and what you do not, such as when you make love.

Try to be independent as much as you can. Sign up classes, getting involved in the community work, makig new friends, etc. If you still have feeling for him, do not let it go easily.

Give you and him some time and space to work it out. Be patient. Life is not all about relationship. But make sure do not have kids before you solve the problem.

Worse case, leave him and find someone else. There are tons of good guys out there. You just need bit luck and bit patient.

Take care of today, tomorrow will take care itself.

Good luck.