Let me say say about 推

We have two kids, one is a freshman at Stanford and one is an good junior in a top 50 high school. Let me brag a little by saying I know something about 推.

Yes, we behaved like most of Asian parents - sending kids for piano and chinese drawing, and chinese school when they were young. At the end, I think those efforts are secondary.

The number one thing is to build their drive to be the best at an early age. We did not know how smart our DD is until she entered first grade. We were pleasantly surprised by some of the awards she won at the beginning. Of course we encouraged her to do more. Once she tasted the "sweetness head" of winning, there was not turning back. Positive, positive positive encouragements. They love that and they want more.

Also, I think I did one right thing which was setting a high expectation at very beginning. I have talked to them many times about their goal in life - making a contribution to the human sociaty as a whole. Please don't laught, I did a lot of this type of talking when they are about 10 years old.

If you really want to 推 per academic, I think you should concentrate on reading, not math or other sciences. Read, read, read!!! Both my kids reads a lot. Every wheere we go, they bring a book with them. At yard sale, they buy books. I don't think we ever 推 our kids do additional math or any other additional school work.

Be actively involve in your child's schooling. As I said, if you don't know why your child is getting a C, you are getting a C as a parent. For example, in one of the cases, the teacher could not read our child's hand writting in home works and test so he gave a lower grade. We worked with our child to improve their hand writting skills and the grade was improved. In another case, kid will write the answer without showing the step. We talked to the teacher who insisted students showing steps. Then we help our kid understand what was the teacher's expectation and why showing steps could also help them etc. saying any negative thing when your child getting a B or C is really bad, in my opinion.

Even if your child is a 4.0 student, go talk to GC and/or teacher once in a while. Let them know that you CARE. Let them know you appreciate their efforts to teach and help your kids.

推 your children to make friend with their GC and teachers. I learnt this from our DD. Some of her high school teacher had tears in their eyes when we talked about our DD.

Once our DD asked me to take her to school by a different route because she wanted to buy a cup of coffee from a special shop. Why, because a sub teacher would be leaving after three days and he had one of this coffee in his first sub day. I would like think that coffee gave the teacher one small happy moment. The benefit - many teachers want to write recommendation letter for DD and they must put in amazing words.

well, hope this help.

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• 谢谢分享这些好经验。 -baydad- ♂ (0 bytes) () 10/02/2008 postreply 08:08:15

• Thanks for sharing the Great tips. I can't agree you more. -2kids- ♀ (0 bytes) () 10/02/2008 postreply 08:14:37

• 谢谢，很好而且很具体！俺现在对大娃爹妈的贴一律说好，怕他们走 ：（ -笑_脸- ♀ (0 bytes) () 10/02/2008 postreply 08:18:36

• 你意思是说，其实不是很好？。。。 -baydad- ♂ (0 bytes) () 10/02/2008 postreply 08:24:12

• 你挑拨离间啊？确实很好！你家大娃还是小娃？ -笑_脸- ♀ (0 bytes) () 10/02/2008 postreply 08:29:06

• 我是问清楚而已。。：－） 中蛙。大的要变大蛙了。。。唉。。。 -baydad- ♂ (0 bytes) () 10/02/2008 postreply 08:31:06

• 谢谢分享好经验。 -4月芳菲- ♀ (0 bytes) () 10/02/2008 postreply 08:22:37

• 顶!推不是问题.问题是推什么.培养爱读书的习惯非常重要 -MMXIAO- ♀ (352 bytes) () 10/02/2008 postreply 08:28:24

• 电视是一定要看的。 有很多精华。 -A_Momy- ♀ (53 bytes) () 10/02/2008 postreply 08:33:30

• Do you buy special channel for your kids? -超级连接- ♂ (36 bytes) () 10/02/2008 postreply 08:36:50

• Nope. PBS is something we watch all the time. -A_Momy- ♀ (90 bytes) () 10/02/2008 postreply 08:45:07

• Do you record the PBS kids? -超级连接- ♂ (127 bytes) () 10/02/2008 postreply 08:57:34

• nope. we donont -A_Momy- ♀ (0 bytes) () 10/02/2008 postreply 10:13:10

• 电视是一定要看的。 有很多精华 - agree -Big_Benz- ♂ (104 bytes) () 10/02/2008 postreply 08:40:10

• 很多人对这个有不同想法.9各持己见吧:) -MMXIAO- ♀ (265 bytes) () 10/02/2008 postreply 08:53:07

• second that. 别的孩子都知道的东东，你的孩子 -家园- ♀ (89 bytes) () 10/02/2008 postreply 09:18:47

• You remind me of a talented black girl I saw on PBS -MMXIAO- ♀ (515 bytes) () 10/02/2008 postreply 09:26:20

• 我只会在一种情况下会赞同阳春白雪，就是我孩子自己有这个要求。 -家园- ♀ (36 bytes) () 10/02/2008 postreply 09:33:39

• 要求is from the choices that kids are exposed to. -MMXIAO- ♀ (407 bytes) () 10/02/2008 postreply 09:43:50

• 这个小孩的天性大都是差不多的，小男孩喜欢游戏，年轻人喜欢 -家园- ♀ (175 bytes) () 10/02/2008 postreply 09:47:59

• 电视无关是否阳春白雪。电视里classic的东西太多了。 -A_Momy- ♀ (0 bytes) () 10/02/2008 postreply 09:42:20

• I think s/he really meant being different -MMXIAO- ♀ (0 bytes) () 10/02/2008 postreply 09:45:15

• Not exactly. I meant forced to be different by parents. -家园- ♀ (0 bytes) () 10/02/2008 postreply 09:51:32

• Oh. I'm with u then. Forcing is never works -MMXIAO- ♀ (0 bytes) () 10/02/2008 postreply 09:56:41

• 也不一定噢，朗朗不就force出来了吗 :) -家园- ♀ (0 bytes) () 10/02/2008 postreply 10:00:35

• 当然电视里好东西很多，discovery, history 等等。 -家园- ♀ (81 bytes) () 10/02/2008 postreply 09:50:30

• got it -A_Momy- ♀ (0 bytes) () 10/02/2008 postreply 09:54:22

• Could you share how to improve handwriting? -超级连接- ♂ (96 bytes) () 10/02/2008 postreply 08:31:52

• We ask him to copy one page of a book every day -Big_Benz- ♂ (162 bytes) () 10/02/2008 postreply 08:42:36

• 好经验，谢分享！你的孩子们自己喜欢或你推他们读哪类书？ -日月茗- ♀ (339 bytes) () 10/02/2008 postreply 08:44:57

• D e s c r i p t i v e Writing Workshop -日月茗- ♀ (0 bytes) () 10/02/2008 postreply 08:48:43

• I am against 数落 kids -Big_Benz- ♂ (555 bytes) () 10/02/2008 postreply 08:54:17

• Active class participation will be part of the grade -日月茗- ♀ (374 bytes) () 10/02/2008 postreply 09:09:34

• 谢谢大奔，很有启发~~~ -坚果- ♀ (0 bytes) () 10/02/2008 postreply 08:48:45

• good推 -weston- ♀ (0 bytes) () 10/02/2008 postreply 09:27:39

• 十分谢谢！这句说的最好！ -黎昉- ♀ (145 bytes) () 10/02/2008 postreply 09:37:44

• 好文章。 -AliceWonder- ♀ (774 bytes) () 10/02/2008 postreply 09:59:46

• 看得出大奔对孩子心理建设尤为重视。多谢经验分享，俺记下笔记了。 -万水千山也有情- ♀ (0 bytes) () 10/02/2008 postreply 10:20:36

• 好文！马上也要步入推的行列了，谢谢分享经验！ -四口之家- ♀ (0 bytes) () 10/02/2008 postreply 14:23:40

• 回复：Let me say say about 推'说得好！' -泰山隐士- ♀ (0 bytes) () 10/03/2008 postreply 07:40:37