美国老土和各位大侠，明早和老板开会，紧急需要建议

我就是上周五电话会上那位学会计、和韩国同事争project lead的女童鞋。

事情是这样的。我已经不可能争到做唯一的project lead了，她绝对不会让步，我只想要老土说的中策（做平等co-leads）. 但这位韩国同事连co-lead也不想我沾，处处想一把抓，很多worldwide level的事务想自己处理了，以便最大限度地拿credit, 等我知道时她已经做完. 因为她到处发email说她是ww lead, 我是她的support, 很多人就只跟她联系，我根本没有信息。以下是我俩的一些emails. 我最后一封email后她没回音，1小时后我收到老板的meeting invitation, 要明早和我俩谈how to handle WW and Geographies. 显然，韩国人背后把我告了。老板是上个月新来的。（顺便说一句，老板今天生日，这个韩国人买了蛋糕到办公室来为老板庆祝，比我会来事。）

TS=老板
NH=韩国人
KD=公司总部的WW Accounting Lead

我发的第一封email，copy韩国人
Hi, KD,

FYI. NH and I divide up this deal by geo. She will do US and AP, I will do Europe. Please invite both of us to your accounting related calls.

韩国人立马回了一封email：
Hi, KD,

Just for clarification to avoid email traffic in case, I am the WW lead for ABC project (like John was for XYZ project) and working on US and AP as well. So I will be the project WW focal for any WW questions.


我回了一封email, copy KD.
NH,

I should be on copy for all ABC project accounting issues for awareness, specially when it is WW and affect Europe, even though it is not Europe specific. That should be the way a team work.


完了后我觉得有必要好好谈谈，于是就写了以下email, 只发给她，没有copy任何人.
Hi, NH,

I feel necessary to clarify each other's capacity and how we should carry out the project. I am sure you want to gain as much experience as you can from this project, so do I. My intent is to learn the max I can learn by doing this project. We don't have to mimic exactly the same way John and Annie ran XYZ project as everyone has different objective to achieve in doing a project. The bottom line is as long as we run the project successfully (we will), I am sure TS will support a way that can benefit both of us the most from a learning perspective.


1. You will handle US and AP issues (That is, US and AP issues should go to you)
2. I will handle Europe issues (That is, Europe issues should come to me, not to you first)
3. We should jointly handle WW issues (My involvement is essential, as stated in my previous note. Things like account mapping, I should be involved early on. We can divide up the work if you like)
4. Since Europe has 2/3 of the entities, if you would like to handle the general project management work (like setting up meetings, sending agenda, recording minutes, maintaining task plan), that's fine with me. That would even out the workload a little. Of course I will not leave all the work to you!


By title, we all do WW (i.e. WW Coordinator). KD is the WW lead. You and I are a joint team. If you want to handle all the WW issues by yourself, then you don't need me, you just need an entry level help.

Let me know if you want to discuss further. We can talk in person if you prefer.......


一看到老板的meeting invitation就知道她背后把我告了,估计她把我的email给老板看了（估计是take out of context 式的，不是整个email）。想想老板介入也好，趁机说说我要什么, 否则韩国人什么都抓在她手里。

想老土和各位大侠给点建议，明早该怎样和老板还有韩国人谈才能最大限度地拿到我想要的。因为老板是新来的，不太了解他会站那边。可是因为韩国人先告状，并且拿去年的XYZ project来做例子，老板有可能站她那边。我该怎样谈？我自己能想到的是：
Be calm, don’t get emotional. Be professional.

1． When I took the project, my understanding was that we would work jointly as co-leads. It was not clearly communicated to me that one as lead and the other as support.
2． I have been in this dept for 2 yrs. I have successfully completed 4 small to medium size acquisitions. I am ready to gain experience from a big project. Big project doesn’t come all the time. This big project is important for me as it is for NH.
3． I want to be involved and jointly handle the WW issues as it affects Europe. I will learn thru resolving the issues. If I am only involved in handling Europe issues, I won’t learn as much as I hope to. I had already handle Europe before. I would like to bring my knowledge and skill to another level when I get out of this project.
4． I would be happy to work out a way with NH that we both can learn the max, rather than one person gains more experience, the other gains less.
5． I want my capability to be fully utilized. I want to contribute more to the project than just being a support.

想老土和各位大侠我还该说什么？有什么地方说得不对的吗? 大谢!

所有跟帖： 

• 写的蛮好的，不要退让 -真是土包子- ♂ (20 bytes) () 09/01/2009 postreply 16:54:34

• 补充意见：不要怪自己。 -真是土包子- ♂ (297 bytes) () 09/01/2009 postreply 23:48:59

• if i were you, let her lead this time as ww leader -世界无童话- ♀ (234 bytes) () 09/01/2009 postreply 16:56:53

• all emaill you send to her, should cc to your boss -世界无童话- ♀ (0 bytes) () 09/01/2009 postreply 17:03:38

• 回复：美国老土和各位大侠，明早和老板开会，紧急需要建议 -平凡小事- ♀ (425 bytes) () 09/01/2009 postreply 17:15:41

• 最后一句至理名言啊。 -goyo- ♀ (0 bytes) () 09/01/2009 postreply 17:28:34

• 可是才两年就这样，老板就只能无奈地笑笑，当然要说先谈谈吧。这个 -眼冒金星- ♂ (246 bytes) () 09/01/2009 postreply 18:19:09

• 严重同意，你可以说contribute the most and benefit the most，但 -veggiedoggie- ♀ (470 bytes) () 09/01/2009 postreply 18:50:35

• 老板和我明早的calendar都满了，没法在3人会之前单独谈， -职场小女子- ♀ (56 bytes) () 09/01/2009 postreply 20:29:51

• Good point,"You can learn as you work. But don't SAY it out loud -clinton-2007- ♂ (0 bytes) () 09/02/2009 postreply 17:58:44

• 我若是你，那封单独写给NH的信是绝对不会写的。 -猪啊猪- ♀ (294 bytes) () 09/01/2009 postreply 17:16:31

• 重点中的重点都被你给说出来了。她把自己的想法居然还 -眼冒金星- ♂ (126 bytes) () 09/01/2009 postreply 17:22:00

• 唉，孩子还小，需要我们大人的帮助。。 你可不能袖手旁观阿。。 -猪啊猪- ♀ (0 bytes) () 09/01/2009 postreply 17:25:12

• 你的意思是要我做第三者插foot的事？那多影响我的名和声啊。 -眼冒金星- ♂ (0 bytes) () 09/01/2009 postreply 17:28:39

• 一般女人才当小三的，你怎么也有此心？？ -猪啊猪- ♀ (0 bytes) () 09/01/2009 postreply 17:33:50

• 鸠山有继妇因为插足都当上首相了，那我还不跟着学学。 -眼冒金星- ♂ (0 bytes) () 09/01/2009 postreply 17:40:22

• 有日本的强国之路是中国之幸。强中更有强中手。江湖是历练出来的。 -眼冒金星- ♂ (0 bytes) () 09/01/2009 postreply 18:02:03

• i don't think so...no need to cc boss all the time -真是土包子- ♂ (102 bytes) () 09/01/2009 postreply 23:51:40

• It depends.For some major issue,you should let your boss know. -clinton-2007- ♂ (0 bytes) () 09/02/2009 postreply 18:06:26

• Dont listen to 美国老土 ... -全信书- ♂ (866 bytes) () 09/01/2009 postreply 17:28:41

• 百家争鸣哈。。 -猪啊猪- ♀ (227 bytes) () 09/01/2009 postreply 17:33:08

• 此事极易。。。 -全信书- ♂ (186 bytes) () 09/01/2009 postreply 17:56:25

• 笑。。 笑。。 个。。。P呀。。 -猪啊猪- ♀ (249 bytes) () 09/01/2009 postreply 18:34:20

• Sigh: 孺子不可教啊. ~.~ -全信书- ♂ (282 bytes) () 09/01/2009 postreply 19:03:43

• 好。我去看看。谢谢啦。。 姆~~骂~~一个。。 -猪啊猪- ♀ (0 bytes) () 09/01/2009 postreply 19:06:12

• 全XX，新老板刚来要的是稳定，她是心有余力不足。没力道。谁都不 -眼冒金星- ♂ (36 bytes) () 09/01/2009 postreply 17:36:11

• I agree to you.It is secret for your career success:make a deal -clinton-2007- ♂ (0 bytes) () 09/02/2009 postreply 18:20:59

• email中的一些用词和语气不妥. 如: -小谋- ♀ (769 bytes) () 09/01/2009 postreply 17:50:22

• 说得很好，谢小谋！我那5点理由英文用词需要改进吗？ -职场小女子- ♀ (0 bytes) () 09/01/2009 postreply 17:59:40

• 你在这个部门两年了，韩女士几年了？ -眼冒金星- ♂ (0 bytes) () 09/01/2009 postreply 18:08:35

• 她3年，可是她在这3年间生了2个小孩，休产假，所以只做了2个 -职场小女子- ♀ (96 bytes) () 09/01/2009 postreply 18:33:18

• Ok，她暂时负责了。 -眼冒金星- ♂ (0 bytes) () 09/01/2009 postreply 19:47:18

• 下面是我的建议: -小谋- ♀ (1543 bytes) () 09/01/2009 postreply 18:29:46

• 真太感谢小谋子了！建议都非常好。我开始也很犹豫，因为知道 -职场小女子- ♀ (412 bytes) () 09/01/2009 postreply 21:02:51

• 这样的人一定要和她斗，否则你日子更难过 -真是土包子- ♂ (0 bytes) () 09/01/2009 postreply 23:53:12

• 完了后我觉得有必要好好谈谈， -胡说之- ♂ (203 bytes) () 09/01/2009 postreply 18:21:14

• my suggestion... -HappyNow?!- ♂ (482 bytes) () 09/01/2009 postreply 18:21:56

• Thanks for the encouragement! -职场小女子- ♀ (0 bytes) () 09/01/2009 postreply 21:04:42

• 如果我是你的话， -宜凡- ♀ (431 bytes) () 09/01/2009 postreply 21:05:10

• 能不能分享一下开会的结果？ -u_boat- ♂ (0 bytes) () 09/02/2009 postreply 15:59:20

• Yoru boss should be more clear on who is the lead -Cathy_Bay- ♀ (629 bytes) () 09/03/2009 postreply 05:47:01

• Thanks, Cathy_bay! -职场小女子- ♀ (0 bytes) () 09/03/2009 postreply 23:30:41