my son keeps hitting other kids in daycare. need suggestion.

Thanks in advance.

I sent my son to day care from Sep. He was ok at the beginning. From 3 weeks ago, his teacher began to complain to me about hitting accidents. I asked him and he told me he hitted a girl named Zoe because she hitted him. But the teacher told me he hitted other kids even they were just close to him. I got a note today because he hitted a child with toy hammer yesterday on his face.

My son is aggresive. but he did not do this before he went to day care. At the beginning month of his daycare, one day he came home with nailmarks all over his face. The seconde day when I asked teacher, she told me she did not know what happened.

Is there any suggestion? What I am thinking is he was hitted at the beginning, then he learned to hit other kids. And he overdoes it. These several days he began to scratch me with his fingernails. Sometimes he told me he want to be a good kid. But later he would say he wants to be bad.  

Thanks a lot!

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• My daughter has similar problem. Asking for advice too -Hihi-Mimi- ♀ (0 bytes) () 11/19/2010 postreply 12:14:49

• 一件事一件算.你儿子脸被划老师不知道,可以抱怨.换我也不开心 -MMXIAO- ♀ (610 bytes) () 11/19/2010 postreply 12:16:51

• 回复：一件事一件算.你儿子脸被划老师不知道,可以抱怨.换我也不开心 -4657238- ♀ (442 bytes) () 11/19/2010 postreply 12:30:46

• 你这个不会说英文可能是问题的根源。 -知福惜福- ♀ (0 bytes) () 11/19/2010 postreply 12:39:16

• 每个孩子在不能表达自己时的发泄方式不同 -MMXIAO- ♀ (288 bytes) () 11/19/2010 postreply 12:46:27

• 有同感，我也觉得孩子不能表达自己可能是问题的关键。 -jty- ♀ (221 bytes) () 11/20/2010 postreply 06:05:39

• 感叹这个坛子，陌生ID的真实烦恼一概不理，忙着和熟ID插科打诨 -olga87- ♀ (692 bytes) () 11/19/2010 postreply 12:16:54

• 恩。我昨天给我家妹夫他们打电话，她也说她儿子5岁今天在daycare打人，但是我知道他们平时对孩子的管教方法就不对， -知福惜福- ♀ (121 bytes) () 11/19/2010 postreply 12:20:18

• 本坛ID的数字最火的限为4位数.比如2016,2011.这位ID数字太长,另人生畏:) -MMXIAO- ♀ (0 bytes) () 11/19/2010 postreply 12:21:49

• 颇有同感。 -淘淘爸- ♂ (0 bytes) () 11/19/2010 postreply 12:27:08

• Thank you. I used this number as my ID by accident and just keep -4657238- ♀ (327 bytes) () 11/19/2010 postreply 12:36:13

• 回复：my son keeps hitting other kids in daycare. need suggestion. -4657238- ♀ (329 bytes) () 11/19/2010 postreply 12:21:13

• 你儿子多大啊？我觉得这年纪的孩子，多给点爱吧，而不是天天骂他，罚他， -知福惜福- ♀ (0 bytes) () 11/19/2010 postreply 12:22:44

• scratch爸爸妈妈还是坚决不能接受的.给TIME OUT应该的.我家孩子也给过 -MMXIAO- ♀ (0 bytes) () 11/19/2010 postreply 12:24:56

• 我觉得首先要了解他scratch爸爸妈妈的原因啊，什么情况下干的，是故意要“伤害”那种，还是觉得好玩，无意识的行为。 -知福惜福- ♀ (34 bytes) () 11/19/2010 postreply 12:32:59

• He did it in purpose. -4657238- ♀ (122 bytes) () 11/19/2010 postreply 12:39:08

• 那你为啥非要他脱衣服呢？这个很重要吗？我觉得对管教小孩子上，大的原则性的东西你才去fight。 -知福惜福- ♀ (143 bytes) () 11/19/2010 postreply 12:42:28

• TIMEOUT不等于就不区别对待啊.觉得好玩不是挠人的借口.这点孩子一定要学明白 -MMXIAO- ♀ (0 bytes) () 11/19/2010 postreply 12:40:33

• 我是.觉得如果他只是好玩的话，我就告诉他这样不好玩，帮他理解为什么他这样做是不好的，而重点不是在惩罚他。 -知福惜福- ♀ (84 bytes) () 11/19/2010 postreply 12:44:15

• 其实time out的真正意义不在惩罚,but to give him a chance to calm down -MMXIAO- ♀ (637 bytes) () 11/19/2010 postreply 12:59:45

• 你给他TIME OUT后问他为什么得TIMEOUT没?教他应该如何表达自己没?告诉他你爱他没? -MMXIAO- ♀ (302 bytes) () 11/19/2010 postreply 12:35:44

• I talked with him each time. -4657238- ♀ (0 bytes) () 11/19/2010 postreply 12:42:23

• 回复：回复：my son keeps hitting other kids in daycare. need suggestio -张小胖- ♀ (507 bytes) () 11/19/2010 postreply 12:44:48

• 问题是她儿子不会说英文啊，这才是麻烦的。 -知福惜福- ♀ (0 bytes) () 11/19/2010 postreply 12:45:59

• 我觉得根据孩子的年龄不同，解决的方法应该也不同才对 -两岁娃的操心妈- ♀ (1321 bytes) () 11/19/2010 postreply 12:43:23

• Thank you. And I share your feeling. -4657238- ♀ (229 bytes) () 11/19/2010 postreply 12:59:55

• 才两岁半，又是男孩子，take it easy! -两岁娃的操心妈- ♀ (0 bytes) () 11/19/2010 postreply 13:01:50

• thanks everyone. -4657238- ♀ (510 bytes) () 11/19/2010 postreply 12:55:09