What should I say to my son?

来源: Portege 于 2008-10-07 15:07:48 [] [旧帖] [给我悄悄话] 阅读数 : (490 bytes)

My son lost interest to apply to college after knowing he doesn't have a chance to get in to Standford. He thinks he has tried very hard in high school and he doesn't want to work hard in a college like CalTech or Berkeley, as he was told the competition is very tough. He said he doesn't have a dream, he just wants to get a job and have fun. I told him he can go to a community college, he thinks I'm kidding, but i'm not.
What's wrong with him, how can I help?

Thanks!

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• What? he doesn't want to work hard in a college like CalTech or -Big_Benz- ♂ 给 Big_Benz 发送悄悄话 (54 bytes) () 10/07/2008 postreply 15:21:20

• 小子受刺激了。没事。 -jellybean3- ♀ 给 jellybean3 发送悄悄话 (35 bytes) () 10/07/2008 postreply 15:25:19

• I think so too. Thanks! -portege- ♀ 给 portege 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 10/07/2008 postreply 15:48:52

• he got the impression that competition at Stanford is not as har -portege- ♀ 给 portege 发送悄悄话 (165 bytes) () 10/07/2008 postreply 15:28:01

• In a greater scheme of things, Cal and Caltech are -Big_Benz- ♂ 给 Big_Benz 发送悄悄话 (117 bytes) () 10/07/2008 postreply 15:30:41

• Of course Caltech is more competitive -大眼瞪小眼- ♀ 给 大眼瞪小眼 发送悄悄话 大眼瞪小眼 的博客首页 (99 bytes) () 10/07/2008 postreply 15:38:38

• With a high school degree, he wouldn't able to get -大眼瞪小眼- ♀ 给 大眼瞪小眼 发送悄悄话 大眼瞪小眼 的博客首页 (438 bytes) () 10/07/2008 postreply 15:28:16

• 难道除了S， UCB，Caltech, 就只有社区大学？：） -毕小珠-- ♀ 给 毕小珠- 发送悄悄话 (158 bytes) () 10/07/2008 postreply 15:34:31

• I think there is also peer pressure. -大眼瞪小眼- ♀ 给 大眼瞪小眼 发送悄悄话 大眼瞪小眼 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 10/07/2008 postreply 15:44:21

• He wants to major in Computer Science -portege- ♀ 给 portege 发送悄悄话 (310 bytes) () 10/07/2008 postreply 15:47:52

• CS is not an easy major anywhere :( -毕小珠-- ♀ 给 毕小珠- 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 10/07/2008 postreply 15:51:08

• I think if he only needs an undergrad degree try the -大眼瞪小眼- ♀ 给 大眼瞪小眼 发送悄悄话 大眼瞪小眼 的博客首页 (239 bytes) () 10/07/2008 postreply 15:57:33

• Thank you! Will consider this. -portege- ♀ 给 portege 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 10/07/2008 postreply 16:34:16

• burned out? he needs to find a school that fits him. -wendi- ♀ 给 wendi 发送悄悄话 (492 bytes) () 10/07/2008 postreply 15:52:45

• This is what I suggested. -portege- ♀ 给 portege 发送悄悄话 (100 bytes) () 10/07/2008 postreply 15:58:58

• normally one tries 3 tiers. -wendi- ♀ 给 wendi 发送悄悄话 (362 bytes) () 10/07/2008 postreply 16:05:53

• BTW, he'll come around. it's a stressful time right -wendi- ♀ 给 wendi 发送悄悄话 (156 bytes) () 10/07/2008 postreply 16:32:46

• Thank you! he has given himself too much pressure -portege- ♀ 给 portege 发送悄悄话 (70 bytes) () 10/07/2008 postreply 16:43:44

• there are so much more than "grades" in college -wendi- ♀ 给 wendi 发送悄悄话 (289 bytes) () 10/07/2008 postreply 17:07:46

• UCSB -weston- ♀ 给 weston 发送悄悄话 weston 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 10/07/2008 postreply 17:03:06

• 参加女儿的高中毕业典礼时看到一些成绩很好的学生 -study- ♀ 给 study 发送悄悄话 (279 bytes) () 10/07/2008 postreply 16:16:12

• like your comments, "也许他可以在以后找到动力" -portege- ♀ 给 portege 发送悄悄话 (7 bytes) () 10/07/2008 postreply 16:33:02

• 如果去当几年兵，连学费也有了。不过，现在不是去当兵的时候啊。。。 -偶行偶素- ♀ 给 偶行偶素 发送悄悄话 偶行偶素 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 10/07/2008 postreply 16:55:22

• He is right about the competition at Caltech. -A-mao- ♂ 给 A-mao 发送悄悄话 A-mao 的博客首页 (385 bytes) () 10/07/2008 postreply 17:03:32

• 回复：He is right about the competition at Caltech. -红棉袄- ♀ 给 红棉袄 发送悄悄话 (55 bytes) () 10/07/2008 postreply 18:06:00

• Is UIUC public or private? -portege- ♀ 给 portege 发送悄悄话 (100 bytes) () 10/07/2008 postreply 18:40:49

• Check www.UIUC.edu. -A-mao- ♂ 给 A-mao 发送悄悄话 A-mao 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 05:57:51

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