a ver frustrated mom, Please help!

My girl is a 10th grader. She gets most As and some Bs. But my problem is her attitute. She doesn't want to do any extra work even if she has a big test such as AP test on her way and she knows that there are still things she doesn't know the answer.

I have to admit I like her all As but if she has tried, I am perfectly fine with Bs. In my oppinion, a good attitute towards work and challenge is critical for a person's life, far more important than grades. However her attitute frustrates me the most. One after one, after many frustrations, I feel that I've done my best and I don't want to deal with it any more. She can be whoever she wants to be and I will have my piece. But I am afraid of one thing. I am afraid that someday in the future, I will regret and feel guity.

Any advice?

Thanks a lot!

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• 找些你们共同喜欢的事情一起做做，她很快就有离开家了， -britannica- ♀ (21 bytes) () 05/05/2008 postreply 14:06:58

• I know. But it's so hard..... -abc1967- ♀ (0 bytes) () 05/05/2008 postreply 14:38:43

• 儿大不由娘 -soccermom- ♀ (84 bytes) () 05/05/2008 postreply 14:12:58

• It seems I've lost my passion. :( -abc1967- ♀ (0 bytes) () 05/05/2008 postreply 14:39:20

• Dealing with a teenage, Only God could help -Big_Benz- ♂ (472 bytes) () 05/05/2008 postreply 14:17:43

• I force myself not to say anything negative to her. -abc1967- ♀ (109 bytes) () 05/05/2008 postreply 14:46:59

• 別只盯住分數 -dudaan- ♂ (48 bytes) () 05/05/2008 postreply 14:22:55

• really not about her grades. it's about her attitute, including -abc1967- ♀ (35 bytes) () 05/05/2008 postreply 14:49:34

• Life should not be all work no play. Teenagers -wendi- ♀ (357 bytes) () 05/05/2008 postreply 14:36:22

• The problem is whenever I say something about her attitute, -abc1967- ♀ (112 bytes) () 05/05/2008 postreply 14:54:33

• Take it easy. She will need to learn the lesson by herself. -baydad- ♂ (70 bytes) () 05/05/2008 postreply 14:41:28

• I will try to take it easy. -abc1967- ♀ (0 bytes) () 05/05/2008 postreply 14:55:39

• Thanks everybody for your response! -abc1967- ♀ (0 bytes) () 05/05/2008 postreply 14:56:06

• Nobody's perfect. Are you perfect at her age? -honeydue- ♀ (87 bytes) () 05/05/2008 postreply 16:16:13

• I did. Her dad did. She complain about this. -abc1967- ♀ (0 bytes) () 05/05/2008 postreply 18:28:53

• What we have here is a lack of communication. -xinye- ♂ (478 bytes) () 05/05/2008 postreply 16:44:29

• Good for you! :) -abc1967- ♀ (0 bytes) () 05/05/2008 postreply 18:30:02

• 你的难处很多母亲都会有的。别急哈。 -黑兔妈妈- ♀ (252 bytes) () 05/05/2008 postreply 18:26:53

• I will try. Thanks! -abc1967- ♀ (0 bytes) () 05/05/2008 postreply 18:31:33

• Very common in teenages, it's hard to be parents -ryanx30- ♂ (44 bytes) () 05/05/2008 postreply 19:05:05

• tried but didn't work. Maybe I wasn't patient enough though. -abc1967- ♀ (0 bytes) () 05/05/2008 postreply 19:30:44

• 我觉得，做孩子的朋友，和他（她）交心最重要。 -陈默- ♀ (1136 bytes) () 05/05/2008 postreply 19:18:18

• Thank you. I will try. -abc1967- ♀ (0 bytes) () 05/05/2008 postreply 19:32:34

• 回复：我觉得，做孩子的朋友，和他（她）交心最重要。 -兰草斋- ♀ (79 bytes) () 05/05/2008 postreply 20:09:22

• 天哪你说得太好了，我存下来了 -抱米花- ♀ (0 bytes) () 05/05/2008 postreply 21:01:36

• Agree! let he or she be! -yunren- ♀ (0 bytes) () 05/06/2008 postreply 12:46:06

• 你说得真好. -阿西- ♀ (36 bytes) () 05/07/2008 postreply 20:38:59

• 回复：a ver frustrated mom, Please help! -liziDC- ♀ (102 bytes) () 05/06/2008 postreply 08:37:15

• she is just lack of interest and motivation -fpxjz- ♀ (722 bytes) () 05/06/2008 postreply 14:10:59

• 要想改变孩子的态度，先改变自己的。 -春江水- ♀ (946 bytes) () 05/06/2008 postreply 16:38:41

• 回复：a ver frustrated mom, Please help! -zaobudao- ♀ (8 bytes) () 05/07/2008 postreply 09:22:29

• 回复：a ver frustrated mom, Please help! -zaobudao- ♀ (298 bytes) () 05/07/2008 postreply 09:40:52