震撼一下. 13 岁，你们看怎么办。始于足球tryout后没有入选高一级球队引发的hardwork讨论

来源: Oldid 于 2014-06-11 19:08:31 [] [旧帖] [给我悄悄话] 阅读数 : (1314 bytes)

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Doctors are over rated. Surgeons need to know what to do and not have shaky hands. Yet it takes over a decade of additional education to become one

the tiger mom? She's a writer, one that got lucky. She has no more talent than the hobo on the street, yet she was the one that got noticed. She's the loser that did everything her parents didn't want her to do, and she got lucky and became successful.

The majority of people that work hard end up failing. Famous people like JK Rowling, Ben Carson, they all are lucky. They are society's pity, and they became successful by pure luck.

Hard work doesn't help you in school, that's what everyone thinks though. It takes pure raw talent to become successful, and working hard is not all but only half of it.

Really? They combined the two teams because they don't want to kill the b team players. I should've moved up and I know it. You don't understand how hard it is being the one that is in between. You have spent your life with your "hard work" mindset well no one cares.

Just don't understand anything. You grew up in China, with high levels of competition, and you think you can do the same for me.

If I'm going to be successful in this country, I'm going to have to beat the challenges here, not the ones in china.

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• 到这份上了，家长应该退一步。两代关系不该是针锋相对。父母有责任控制这个“度” -prouddd- ♀ 给 prouddd 发送悄悄话 (208 bytes) () 06/11/2014 postreply 19:27:13

• 做起来很难， 尤其小中和老中之间 -jyyxhen- ♀ 给 jyyxhen 发送悄悄话 jyyxhen 的博客首页 (48 bytes) () 06/11/2014 postreply 19:32:37

• 回复：做起来很难， 尤其小中和老中之间 -oldid- ♀ 给 oldid 发送悄悄话 (250 bytes) () 06/11/2014 postreply 19:48:29

• Should thank your son for opening up to you first. -Tianbupa- ♂ 给 Tianbupa 发送悄悄话 (19 bytes) () 06/11/2014 postreply 19:40:19

• 为什么震撼？他说的没错啊。 -CirrusCloud- ♀ 给 CirrusCloud 发送悄悄话 CirrusCloud 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 06/11/2014 postreply 19:55:26

• 回复：为什么震撼？他说的没错啊。 -oldid- ♀ 给 oldid 发送悄悄话 (79 bytes) () 06/11/2014 postreply 20:18:43

• 他的意思不是不需要work hard -SwiperTheFox- ♂ 给 SwiperTheFox 发送悄悄话 SwiperTheFox 的博客首页 (95 bytes) () 06/11/2014 postreply 20:24:50

• Work hard 是尽自己的力，但不保证什么，成功最主要的靠运气。所以 -CirrusCloud- ♀ 给 CirrusCloud 发送悄悄话 CirrusCloud 的博客首页 (140 bytes) () 06/11/2014 postreply 20:25:41

• 美国立国的根本之一就是working hard，现在不流行了， -ca981- ♂ 给 ca981 发送悄悄话 ca981 的博客首页 (89 bytes) () 06/11/2014 postreply 20:12:06

• 情绪化了。放一放再说。 -大号蚂蚁- ♂ 给 大号蚂蚁 发送悄悄话 大号蚂蚁 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 06/11/2014 postreply 20:56:47

• 13岁还小，不要放弃。hard work beat talent when talent doesn't work hard -wxced- ♀ 给 wxced 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 06/11/2014 postreply 21:01:55

• Then I suggest you buy your son this book: Talent is overrated. -加共- ♂ 给 加共 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 06/11/2014 postreply 21:10:47

• 13岁文章写得很不错啊。还能跟你深度交流。挺好的 -monochrome- ♀ 给 monochrome 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 06/11/2014 postreply 21:17:27

• 很愤青啊，呵呵，我娃咋从来不跟我谈论这么有深度的话题：） -怀旧一点点- ♀ 给 怀旧一点点 发送悄悄话 怀旧一点点 的博客首页 (28 bytes) () 06/11/2014 postreply 21:47:58

• 看来孩子很失望。 -soundofsilence- ♀ 给 soundofsilence 发送悄悄话 soundofsilence 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 06/11/2014 postreply 22:24:46

• 所以要有挫折教育，不能一遇事就开始怀疑人生 -夏云- ♀ 给 夏云 发送悄悄话 夏云 的博客首页 (1 bytes) () 06/12/2014 postreply 05:35:14

• 还有，你们到底教育孩子什么？为什么孩子要说你们中国的在美国没用？ -夏云- ♀ 给 夏云 发送悄悄话 夏云 的博客首页 (1 bytes) () 06/12/2014 postreply 05:36:20

• 最大问题是和别人比。hard working的motivation是把别人比下去，这个容易导致失败后的情绪化。 -Morning3evening4- ♂ 给 Morning3evening4 发送悄悄话 Morning3evening4 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 06/12/2014 postreply 05:59:17

• 回复：最大问题是和别人比。hard working的motivation是把别人比下去，这个容易导致失败后的情绪化。 -Morning3evening4- ♂ 给 Morning3evening4 发送悄悄话 Morning3evening4 的博客首页 (462 bytes) () 06/12/2014 postreply 06:15:04

• 回复：震撼一下. 13 岁，你们看怎么办。始于足球tryout后没有入选高一级球队引发的hardwork讨论 -Jxr- ♂ 给 Jxr 发送悄悄话 (325 bytes) () 06/12/2014 postreply 07:53:31

• 说得好。 -info_session- ♀ 给 info_session 发送悄悄话 info_session 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 06/12/2014 postreply 08:03:28

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