To: NDMOM. It is not a big deal

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The message that you posted yesterday was a great one that every one should appreciate it including your friends of the wife and the hu*****and. You don’t have any obligations and legal responsibilities for it because you didn’t mention any names or indicate any names though your message might be very true and accurate.

Chinese have a saying, Da Yi Mie Qin. Da Yi Mie Qin does not necessarily mean that only parents can Mie their kids if their kids are evils. Nowadays, it can also mean that kids can Mie their parents if their parents are evils. Of course, Mie here does not necessarily mean to “ kill” them, but criticize them, jail them and punish them or at least cut off any relations with them. Of course, it is very hard for any one to Mie Qin. But sometimes, we have to because they are deserved to be Mied. Otherwise, we are not better than those evils though we are not doing those things that are criminal.

In this case, cut off any relations with the father and father-in-law might be the best solution. As a hu*****and, he should and he have to protect his wife at any circumstous, let alone his wife is sexual harassed by his father and the wife is the victim. Forget about the so-called Chinese “Xiao” or whatever “Ai” here. The wife’s feeling and motion is the number one and most important thing that her hu*****and should take of care. Otherwise, her hu*****and is no better than his father. To certain degree, he might be even worse than his father because directly or indirectly his action and attitude might hurt his wife even more.

Yes, we should be forgiving as well. But in this case, we should not be forgiving just yet, at least not right now because the father-in-law was not punished for his evil behavior, and even worse, the evil father was lying and denying what he was doing. Unfortunately, her “coward”, “foolish” and “stupid” hu*****and has not get it that how serious the problem is. I am sorry that I use such bad words that I do not use often.

Once again thank you for your message. And I am very glad that the hu*****and read it as well which should be very instructive, positive and helpful to him, his wife and his family.

Merry Christmas and Happy Holidyas to you, your family as well as to your friend and her family.


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阿毛的话非常理智。大顶! -茶缘- 给 茶缘 发送悄悄话 茶缘 的个人群组 (0 bytes) () 12/23/2005 postreply 08:47:50

回的句子不漂亮。换了三克油就说:疼死了,轻点儿! -茶缘- 给 茶缘 发送悄悄话 茶缘 的个人群组 (34 bytes) () 12/23/2005 postreply 09:12:48

都象你这样,性骚扰和约会强奸就永远是一笔糊涂帐了 -66130- 给 66130 发送悄悄话 66130 的个人群组 (214 bytes) () 12/23/2005 postreply 09:17:23

very good point and I agree. -noworry- 给 noworry 发送悄悄话 noworry 的个人群组 (0 bytes) () 12/23/2005 postreply 09:25:14

It is very simple: GET OUT OF MY HOUSE -NoWorry- 给 NoWorry 发送悄悄话 NoWorry 的个人群组 (302 bytes) () 12/23/2005 postreply 08:51:08

Not necessarily true -NoWorry- 给 NoWorry 发送悄悄话 NoWorry 的个人群组 (385 bytes) () 12/23/2005 postreply 09:16:37

What happend?so serious -Huqi- 给 Huqi 发送悄悄话 Huqi 的个人群组 (0 bytes) () 12/23/2005 postreply 08:51:38

Nothing, but discussing. Nice to see you -noworry- 给 noworry 发送悄悄话 noworry 的个人群组 (0 bytes) () 12/23/2005 postreply 08:53:31

阿毛和无忧的名字应该对换。阿毛不容易发毛,无忧有点令人忧 :) -hulahula- 给 hulahula 发送悄悄话 hulahula 的博客首页 hulahula 的个人群组 (0 bytes) () 12/23/2005 postreply 09:13:46

I don't know 阿毛 for sure in this case. -noworry- 给 noworry 发送悄悄话 noworry 的个人群组 (222 bytes) () 12/23/2005 postreply 09:23:34

It depends on how much trust you have on your wife. -baydad- 给 baydad 发送悄悄话 baydad 的个人群组 (75 bytes) () 12/23/2005 postreply 09:31:48

回复:To: NDMOM. It is not a big deal -morelove- 给 morelove 发送悄悄话 morelove 的个人群组 (1234 bytes) () 12/23/2005 postreply 09:30:33

非常理解你的处境和做法。绝对信任你对LP的爱。 -茶缘- 给 茶缘 发送悄悄话 茶缘 的个人群组 (72 bytes) () 12/23/2005 postreply 09:43:30

Maybe the husband should put more money and -70147- 给 70147 发送悄悄话 70147 的个人群组 (277 bytes) () 12/23/2005 postreply 15:50:58

谢谢你们得好意,只是向阿毛所说没那么简单。 -NDMom- 给 NDMom 发送悄悄话 NDMom 的个人群组 (1172 bytes) () 12/23/2005 postreply 09:42:07

I don't agree with you at all. -NoWorry- 给 NoWorry 发送悄悄话 NoWorry 的个人群组 (447 bytes) () 12/23/2005 postreply 09:51:15

let's agree with disagree then. :-) Thanks for your opinion. -NDMom- 给 NDMom 发送悄悄话 NDMom 的个人群组 (56 bytes) () 12/23/2005 postreply 09:55:49

无忧说的不错, 那老头是个dirty old man, for sure. -黑白分明- 给 黑白分明 发送悄悄话 黑白分明 的个人群组 (80 bytes) () 12/23/2005 postreply 15:46:09

我怎么觉得他母亲非常“利害”啊 -britannica- 给 britannica 发送悄悄话 britannica 的个人群组 (312 bytes) () 12/23/2005 postreply 10:53:37

他母亲的说法做法其实是典型的manipulation -britannica- 给 britannica 发送悄悄话 britannica 的个人群组 (12 bytes) () 12/23/2005 postreply 11:09:20

“他母亲认为她自己的那一点面子,比媳妇受屈辱要重要多了”。-exac -NDMom- 给 NDMom 发送悄悄话 NDMom 的个人群组 (16 bytes) () 12/23/2005 postreply 12:44:56

Agree w/ your observation. -19815- 给 19815 发送悄悄话 19815 的个人群组 (0 bytes) () 12/23/2005 postreply 12:49:52

同意你的看法. 婆婆似乎玩的"苦肉计". 有的父母为了 -70147- 给 70147 发送悄悄话 70147 的个人群组 (147 bytes) () 12/23/2005 postreply 15:28:30

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