I was thinking bout the movie “true lies” this morning. The girl had to fake herself to gain the love of a guy. Once she realized this, she decided to leave that guy and be herself. At workplace, we are not ourselves and people call this as “reshape” to fit in working environment. For some people, it is difficult because they have to completely change themselves The golden office rules are no emotions and smiling, but humans have emotions and can not always smile. One of the higher up lady told me this story: on the day she had her first board meeting, her hu*****and told her that he had been seeing another woman and wanted a divorce. She went to the meeting with smile on her face and held a success meeting. She was falling apart in her office right after the meeting. My boss told me this: being a leader, you got to come to the office during the critical time even you are sick.
Therefore, you have to hold your tears even your hu*****and is leaving you because you are in front of those people who are “important” to your career but nothing to your life. You have to come to the office with fever because someone would “die” if you don’t show up. You have to lie and talk nonsense when one of your subordinate comes to you and ask “why he is making more money than I do? Why he is getting promoted and I don’t? …..
