易大侠都发言了，我受宠若惊。

易大侠都发言了，我受宠若惊。
如果平常日子有人这样 - 把我刚说完的话内容，又一本正经正经的跟教小孩似的再说一遍，不熟的人，我会想这个人有点不对劲儿，不过给他，如果是我老公，我会去摸摸他脑门，问他是不是发烧。不过如果是老板，我受到大家教育后，会说，OK， I will。“。 这个不要紧。After all, I mean it. 

但是如果不同意就比较麻烦。这个老板是项目领导，不是技术领导。我是需要技术上负责的。He is not supposed to know all the technical details, and he didn't know.  But, he wants to dictate. 其实内部讨论也没问题。I won't have a problem discussing with him about all the options and consequences.  但是当时会议客户也在。我知道他的要求不在我们原来同意的工作范围内。如果我当着客户的面答应去做了，我不知道后果是怎样的。所以解释了几句 (I did it with good intention, just to remind him that it was not within the agreement)可能我的回答不够圆滑，所以他较上劲儿了，非要我说yes。我后来也只能说了。(In the internal meeting two days after that meeting, I reported to him what we did based on his request, he started to contradict himself, and asked us to do it the other way - like what we originally proposed.  That is when I was dumbfounded, and asked here how I should clarify the issue, so none of us look like a fool).  One more complication, all the meetings are conference calls.  I call-in to a meeting where all of them sitting in the same meeting room.  If face to face, won't be that difficult. 

所以我说我总结出来了，不要太叫真儿。一个是一开始就应该跟他打马虎眼。争取会后内部讨论。再有，既然他叫我那样做，那就应该他承担责任。我没必要靠自己身上揽。
一句话，我有点儿green。而且在这方面，天资比较差。从小实心眼，人家问什么，答什么。不会read between the line，没想太多关于他是谁，我是谁的问题。有时无意中把问的人逼到死胡同里去。所以读了大家的话，很有启发。锻炼成这里有的人那种人精而那样我是没戏了，但是希望以后可以避免类似的事情。

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