回复：怎么玩，才是win-win呢?

首先，你就不能把他定义为bully。这样的 prejudice 一形成，就没有win-win game 可以玩了。win-win game，双方要站在战线的同一端。这个话题说起来长，暂且不提。

具体到你这个case，我觉得至少可以采用中策：不树敌。树敌何益？写拒绝的email，也没有必要公开地羞辱一个人。

换个思路：

Joe, congrats to your promotion, well deserved. Your newly proposed projects are very exciting, I am sure they would boost the performance of our world-famous product, which is the best thing human beings ever have, and I am honored that I am picked as the executor. However, my hands are pretty tight for the time being, as you may know I am working on several important projects like reducing green gas emission, fighting against global warming and children starvation in the developing countries etc etc. I have to discuss my priorities and availability with my boss, mean while, I'd suggest you to get more resources from the top management. Any-hoo, I'd love to help in different ways before everything is sorted out, like sharing my experience and ideas...

这儿来个免责条款：只是思路，不是语录。上回某个帖子就被实心老鹰拍了砖。

发email，尤其是群发的时候，措辞一定要讲究, being positive and cooperative. Two wrongs can't make a right.

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• greenhouse gas -wistara- ♀ (0 bytes) () 02/08/2010 postreply 14:21:43

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• 过两天别忘了给师父百年哦~ -wistara- ♀ (0 bytes) () 02/08/2010 postreply 15:58:40

• 是拜年! -wistara- ♀ (0 bytes) () 02/08/2010 postreply 15:58:57

• 您百年之后，一定祭拜 -胡说之- ♂ (0 bytes) () 02/08/2010 postreply 16:03:55

• 劣徒! -wistara- ♀ (0 bytes) () 02/08/2010 postreply 17:56:00

• 谢谢大家的发言，我总结一下： -Guendawen- ♀ (389 bytes) () 02/08/2010 postreply 16:01:26