有啊，当然有了，困惑多多，请大家帮助评论。

只不过我的情况有些复杂，她是因为回国Renew她的签证(L1 Visa，intra-company transfer)被Check（三个多月了还在Pending), so her company temporarily arrange her to work in Shanghai office.

If I find a job here, what if her visa gets rejected? I have to quit and go back to China.

If I find a job in China, what if her visa gets granted? Shall we stay in China or come back to US again?

Things are complicated because of the stupid visa check. I personally slightly prefer to go back to China mainly because of my parents, I am a single child and they may need me since they are getting old.
But she slightly prefer to US. She has a pretty good job (in IT) and she is very skillful/capable.她经常戏称我是我们家最大的负担，呵呵，有点对。But I am so tired of immigration issues, 不想再来个八年抗战拿个绿卡（我们来美国两年，绿卡才刚开始申请），但是我也没把握是否能在中国找到合适的工作。我如果回国的话主要是为了父母。也无数次问自己为了父母而放弃在国外的生活是否应该/值得。我妈妈来过美国住了一年，他们肯定是不能适应这儿的，我也觉得我迟早要回中国离他们近些。儿子才4岁，但是居然不喜欢美国的幼儿园（大概是他不习惯说英语吧）。他是那种贪玩不爱学习的家伙，也许美国的教育更适合他。当找工作与移民和其他亲人问题交织在一起时，困惑也多多了。

既然云河姐问到了，俺也想听听大家的看法，希望大家积极踊跃发言。谢谢。

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• thanks for your reply, -吴用先生- ♂ (145 bytes) () 02/22/2009 postreply 12:28:34

• 四岁小孩要是不贪玩爱学习会怎么样啊 -dropinto- ♀ (0 bytes) () 02/22/2009 postreply 12:55:41

• 说的也是，可是我看那幼儿园同龄的孩子 -吴用先生- ♂ (64 bytes) () 02/22/2009 postreply 13:02:03

• 在幼儿园给他找个女朋友，他就喜欢去了 -怪哉- ♂ (70 bytes) () 02/22/2009 postreply 13:24:26

• 老师好像还比较叫Nice，也见过有 -吴用先生- ♂ (135 bytes) () 02/22/2009 postreply 13:33:53

• 小孩要多鼓励，我告诉你 -怪哉- ♂ (347 bytes) () 02/22/2009 postreply 13:40:23

• 呵呵，谢谢， -吴用先生- ♂ (100 bytes) () 02/22/2009 postreply 13:45:08