You have a common problem of Chinese w/ too much education

That is, you are not good at dealing with people, at least in the American culture. Not a surprise, we didn't grow up here and we spent most of our time reading books and obeying orders.

It's not about WHAT you need to do (emails, notices, meetings, etc), It's HOW you do it. Why do others brush you aside? Why do others think very lightly of you? You kept mentioning the word "authority". Can anything else impress and influence people to do what you want them to do?

Yes. Team work and leadership are the two buzz words got thrown around a lot. You sure are good at learning, so go Google and read about them for the next six months and see if you can practice a thing or two.

First and foremost though, it's about WHO you are. If you have no dignity and pride in yourself, and let people do whatever to you, then they'll stick it to you. I'm sure you know people who have no authority but everyone loves and respects and listens to. You are a good learner, you sure can find a book or two on this from Amazon, or go audit a class about management/organization behavior in your biz school, assuming you are in a university.

If you are looking for a magic button for your issue, there's none. There's never a magic button when it comes to human relations. Only perseverance.

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• Thank you, mos -wcnb- ♀ (0 bytes) () 01/09/2009 postreply 08:56:41

• Thank you, most of my coworker are Chinese -wcnb- ♀ (94 bytes) () 01/09/2009 postreply 09:04:50

• huh? -catcherintherye- ♂ (668 bytes) () 01/09/2009 postreply 09:18:39