Would you mind my opinion?

即怕把她的好意take it to wrong way, 又怕犯傻被利用。

-- This is very easy, a piece of cake. You should never worry about whether somebody is making use of you! You never need 怕犯傻被利用! People make use of each other all the time! If people like to make use of you, it means you have value, you're needed! There is nothing wrong and nothing bad out there!

The key is not whether your boss or anybody makes use of you, the key is: whether you can make use of her either! When two persons can make use of each other, they are really in a good bond! They are really useful to each other. Actually, in my observation, anybody in a good position should worry about himself, if nobody is trying to make use of him! (in that way he is basically in the dead end, no matter how high position he has).


我老板理论上都对，但属于那种说话很不实在的。说的绝对比做的多。但是想想照她告诉我的做，并没坏处，何必管她是真心假意。

Sigh, you don't get it:), no wonder you even had trouble at so basic things which I had hard time to believe!:). First, "我老板理论上都对，但属于那种说话很不实在的。说的绝对比做的多。" does not matter at all, I'm about to laugh!:) Have you seen any strong boss not like this?

From "但是想想照她告诉我的做，并没坏处", you can actually see through these things, then worry for what? I'm laughing!:) Yup, just "何必管她是真心假意", everything will be just fine. Why don't just look at the surface validity? If it looks like a duck, sounds like a duck, walks in the way a duck walks, then that's a duck!:) Move on, don't get stuck!


我说她对我太tough. 她和我说“It is for your own good. I only do this to the people I care”。

You shouldn't say/tell your boss is too tough -- all bosses are tough, very tough, the difference is good bosses are good and tough, bad bosses are not so good but are also tough. The higher position one goes, the tougher it gets -- everybody knows that but nobody would complain about it, that's life, that's business! To me, I evaluate my boss by only two things: good business sense, good politics sense -- the former helps make money, the latter helps guard money. Anything else I don't care.


有一点不舒服的事，她把她的心腹从另一个公司弄过来， 我加在他们中间，像 step child 一样。我举不出任何我老板对我不fair的例子。只是看她们关系很亲密心里不舒服吧。而且只要那人提出建议，我老板就一定要我接受。这里面包括我以前提过，我老板佛决的事，她的心腹提出，我老板就很同意。不过不得不承认是，她这位心腹能力真的很强，而且把自己降了一级到我们公司追随我老板。我老板很像三国里的刘备，自己每天什莫都不干（她自己做就慢得要死），可是下面全是能干又对她死心踏地的人。她对我最大的改变就是开始delegate down 给我下面的人和关心他们。其实我是在学我老板。她改变了我的management style.

That's just a style, but obviously that's quite a successful boss -- she even has a ghost company, with a flock following her. There are only two choices: you either fit in or walk away.

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• 回复：Would you mind my opinion? -LilyBD- ♀ (637 bytes) () 11/07/2008 postreply 21:04:39