You somehow get lost in your life, because your hu*****and and your kids are not your first priority. Job is for better life. If you do not have a balanced life, you are just working machine. Is this you want?
Career type woman does not mean suffering your family for career like promotion and salary raise. Wise career type woman knows how to take care of her family and balance work; act professionally, not emotionally; get promotion and raise by performance, not by having an affair.
Think about more about your hu*****and and your kids, not just yourself. Hope you will make a wise choice for you and your family.