and let your daughter find her own solution, realizing that not all problems have solutions, mitigation, maybe.
Sounds like she is not the leader of the clique, only a follower.
Some questions to ask her:
- How many girls are in the group?
- Who seems to be the most influential among them?
- Who follows the leader most closely? Do they act like the flying monkeys in the "Wizard of Oz"?
- Do you like the leader as a person? What are her good points? If she decides she doesn't like you anymore, what would she likely do?
- You need friendship from the leader, or some other girl in the group?
- What does she likely say if you start playing with the lonely girl?
- Do you feel you are obligated to play with the lonely girl? Why or why not?
- If you don't feel like doing something, under what condition would you do it? Where do you draw the line?
- Who's need comes first? If yours and other's come into conflict, how are you going to decide? If you don't make a decision in time, have you decided to let the situation decide for you? What's the criteria?
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