You can provide some clarity

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and let your daughter find her own solution, realizing that not all problems have solutions, mitigation, maybe.

Sounds like she is not the leader of the clique, only a follower.

Some questions to ask her:

- How many girls are in the group?

- Who seems to be the most influential among them?

- Who follows the leader most closely?  Do they act like the flying monkeys in the "Wizard of Oz"?

- Do you like the leader as a person? What are her good points?  If she decides she doesn't like you anymore, what would she likely do?

- You need friendship from the leader, or some other girl in the group?

- What does she likely say if you start playing with the lonely girl?

- Do you feel you are obligated to play with the lonely girl? Why or why not?

- If you don't feel like doing something, under what condition would you do it? Where do you draw the line?

- Who's need comes first?  If yours and other's come into conflict, how are you going to decide?  If you don't make a decision in time, have you decided to let the situation decide for you?  What's the criteria?

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