作为父母,孩子的心理你们了解吗?

来源: yddad 2017-12-19 07:18:30 [] [旧帖] [给我悄悄话] 本文已被阅读: 次 (2550 bytes)
这是孩子的论坛看到的。有时我觉得,如果你的孩子只是一个above average kid,还是少来一些子坛。在这里呆久了也许会对你孩子的期望过高。

https://www.reddit.com/r/teenagers/comments/7kqqhx/serious_i_hate_my_parents_so_much_and_i_dont_hate/

Hi there r/Teenagers,

So title says all. I'm currently a sophomore, so the results for PSAT and finals came in about a week ago. I was super pleased, having gotten a 1230 in PSAT and a 3.5 GPA.

My results were higher than all my friends!

Well, shit starts to go down when I came home. I'm an Asian kid, so you can probably imagine what's gonna happen next.

"3 Bs? 3.5 GPA? You didn't get a 3.8? No colleges are gonna enroll you."

"1230? Out of 1520? Why are you 300 short? You must be playing video games, that's why. Your friend got 1120? Well he's just dumb."

I hate it. I fucking hate it. I absolutely detest their tone, their voice, their inability to look at the bright side of the situation.

I'm a boy, and that might have sound very weird.

I've dealt with this before. In fact, I'll even consider myself very tough independently. I got depressed when I was around 10, and by myself I've gotten out of the shell. I was proud of it, knowing that I can look after myself and maybe others as well. However, whenever my parents just reject my accomplishments, it hurts. Like a bitch. And I hate it.

I told my parents how I felt, but they would just pull off a trick like "stop complaining, we just want the best for your future son" and "we don't need anything, just you to be successful" when I know it's all a fucking lie. I don't get motivation from someone looking down on me.

Reddit, what should I do? I just want to go to sleep and never do anything again, because my parents would just ignore it. I can't wait to get the crap out of this house, because no matter how bad taxes and life can be, nothing can match this hell where accomplishments die constantly that I call home.

TLDR: I'm Asian, my parents don't acknowledge anything I do, and I hate it. What should I do?

Edit: make it so that everything's a little easier to understand.
 

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这个题目送给很多老中在国内的父母也挺适合的LOL -Tufa- 给 Tufa 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 12/19/2017 postreply 07:21:27

确实,以前在紫檀泡一天后,看见娃回家就摇头;现在已经认命了,娃就是个普通娃,坐火箭也撵不上紫檀的牛蛙。还是老牛拉破车,一步一步慢 -篱笆08- 给 篱笆08 发送悄悄话 篱笆08 的博客首页 (169 bytes) () 12/19/2017 postreply 07:23:56

青牛一步三千里 -尔思- 给 尔思 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 12/19/2017 postreply 07:39:39

娃有几斤几两,当娘的最清楚不过了。生活中遇到的身边的牛娃更是让我清醒自家娃的普通。 -篱笆08- 给 篱笆08 发送悄悄话 篱笆08 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 12/19/2017 postreply 07:57:17

孩子开心健康最重要。 -Midwestrural- 给 Midwestrural 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 12/19/2017 postreply 07:24:37

这个社会,不思进取是不会快乐的。 -woyawoya- 给 woyawoya 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 12/19/2017 postreply 14:35:00

这孩子家长应该从小放他在更好的学校。现在骂已经晚了。家长不及格。 -greenoasis- 给 greenoasis 发送悄悄话 (98 bytes) () 12/19/2017 postreply 07:51:06

这是所有种族对孩子要求期望高的父母一不小心,很容易犯的通病。 -数学委员-- 给 数学委员- 发送悄悄话 数学委员- 的博客首页 (212 bytes) () 12/19/2017 postreply 07:57:42

过高的期望反倒让孩子失去信心。 -小团圆- 给 小团圆 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 12/19/2017 postreply 08:04:03

这种现象不是单单在中等孩子身上出现,家长期望过高的结果。 -加州阳光123- 给 加州阳光123 发送悄悄话 加州阳光123 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 12/19/2017 postreply 08:13:22

美国学校得这种成绩,是不够努力的结果,有啥理直气壮呢?大多数人平庸不就是因为不努力么?人生脑力最好的时候不努力,难道有理? -woyawoya- 给 woyawoya 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 12/19/2017 postreply 11:18:17

找excuse 永远比做事容易。这个孩子的本底教育有问题,而不是父母不理解的问题。 -woyawoya- 给 woyawoya 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 12/19/2017 postreply 11:26:36

对孩子要求高不是问题。家长的方法确实有问题。 -朱珠儿- 给 朱珠儿 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 12/19/2017 postreply 12:23:32

This is serious stuff. Parents need to wake up -yude- 给 yude 发送悄悄话 yude 的博客首页 (387 bytes) () 12/19/2017 postreply 11:29:10

纯属教育失败 -touchlife- 给 touchlife 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 12/19/2017 postreply 14:03:18

这个孩子全靠自己走出抑郁,这做家长的真不合格。再不回头难道一定要见着棺材才落泪? -dididididi- 给 dididididi 发送悄悄话 dididididi 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 12/19/2017 postreply 16:49:53

孩子需要家长引导 -SYU2009- 给 SYU2009 发送悄悄话 (189 bytes) () 12/19/2017 postreply 23:18:08

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