情和理

The father figure missed her daughter's entire point.  The daughter is crying out with bleeding heart for help and begging for understanding. The father still blindly demands this and demands that, show me this and show me that, explain this and explain that. He never once acknowledge her hurt.

The daughter begs for 情，the father demands 理。  

Random thoughts of being a dad

1. Be there and be present.

2. Listen, and pay attention, and feel with heart.

3. Acknowledge and acknowledge

4. Admit mistakes

5. Provide and protect

6. Guide, motivate, nudge a little

7. Read together, bike together, share together, play together, laugh together, 

Watch a video together

8. Zip it, and hold it.

9. Reach out and touch

10. Touch more.

11. Laugh together

12. Back off and give more space

13. Trust。

14. Be generous with praise.

15. Accept not defeat, but imperfection.

 

    

 

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• 当爹的未必占多少理。虐待狂都喜欢指责受害者，说，都是你的错。很常见。 -moderation- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/30/2016 postreply 12:11:38

• 人没有完美的，有些人擅长鸡蛋里挑骨头，真要挑错，肯定能挑出来。这是虐待型人格。母亲还没有意识到严重性 -moderation- ♀ (191 bytes) () 04/30/2016 postreply 12:16:29

• 作为反面教材我讲几句. -sunshinecity- ♂ (2087 bytes) () 04/30/2016 postreply 12:46:59

• Thank you for sharing! Why don't you post this as a new one. Co -Vbaby- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/30/2016 postreply 12:57:56

• Thanks for your reminder. I just posted it as a new one. -sunshinecity- ♂ (0 bytes) () 04/30/2016 postreply 13:36:44

• There is hope of change -yude- ♂ (207 bytes) () 04/30/2016 postreply 15:11:54