mediocre vs excellence, 5+5 < 1 + 9.

no opinion about 0+10

To get 5 is fun, to get 8 or 9 need much more hard work. Why 8 or 9 needs much more work? it is just the reversal of 80/20 rule.

Many people equal happy, fun with mediocre, so they like their kids to have 5+5.

But I would say, a happy, fun, but shallow kid's life most likely will not be a happy, enjoying adult's life.

We don't want to force our kids, but that doesn't mean we shouldn't expect excellence from them.

We need to spur (not force) kids to test their boundary, to go an extra mile, so they can be very good at (at least) one area.

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• Ding! -Abemom- ♀ (472 bytes) () 12/19/2008 postreply 08:29:34

• 胆敢抬个扛 -A-Momy- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/19/2008 postreply 08:33:52

• 知足长乐咋流传了千百年？ -A-Momy- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/19/2008 postreply 08:36:06

• mediocre's excuse. -Abemom- ♀ (49 bytes) () 12/19/2008 postreply 08:56:49

• 说这话的先贤可不是mediocre 吧。要不然这话咋流传呢？ -A-Momy- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/19/2008 postreply 09:06:08

• created by mediocre -Abemom- ♀ (94 bytes) () 12/19/2008 postreply 09:12:06

• positive 知足长乐 is more about value what you have, and -QualityWithoutName- ♂ (74 bytes) () 12/19/2008 postreply 09:03:41

• good point! better than mine. -Abemom- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/19/2008 postreply 09:04:39

• 那个是“ positive 知足长乐”非“知足长乐”。 -A-Momy- ♀ (82 bytes) () 12/19/2008 postreply 09:09:11

• because Quality is not mediocre :) -Abemom- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/19/2008 postreply 09:12:41

• ok. that is why we chinese was almost bitten to death. -QualityWithoutName- ♂ (33 bytes) () 12/19/2008 postreply 09:18:21

• 接着昨天你的“miracle”话头跟你打个比方。 -mit123- ♀ (224 bytes) () 12/19/2008 postreply 09:10:19

• nonsense -Abemom- ♀ (66 bytes) () 12/19/2008 postreply 09:18:11

• 这么强势啊。 -A-Momy- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/19/2008 postreply 09:56:00

• and bh :) -Abemom- ♀ (63 bytes) () 12/19/2008 postreply 10:32:30

• By choice or by force is the real difference -盘石过江- ♂ (395 bytes) () 12/19/2008 postreply 08:46:25

• mountain climbing is not tourism -Abemom- ♀ (78 bytes) () 12/19/2008 postreply 08:56:02

• At least we need to tell kids that the view on mountain -QualityWithoutName- ♂ (431 bytes) () 12/19/2008 postreply 09:15:49

• shake hands! -Abemom- ♀ (105 bytes) () 12/19/2008 postreply 09:23:28

• Thanks. -QualityWithoutName- ♂ (0 bytes) () 12/19/2008 postreply 09:36:11

• 不同的教育理念吧。老毛讲究斗争哲学，与天斗其乐无穷 -mit123- ♀ (137 bytes) () 12/19/2008 postreply 09:17:02

• The devil is in the details. -QualityWithoutName- ♂ (261 bytes) () 12/19/2008 postreply 09:34:33

• 有这种精神用在自己身上比较好，要求别人总感觉不大对劲。 -家园- ♀ (154 bytes) () 12/19/2008 postreply 09:36:21

• 父母的期许是孩子最大的伤害，学术届好像是定论，你去查查看：） -britannica- ♀ (88 bytes) () 12/19/2008 postreply 10:07:07

• No -Abemom- ♀ (346 bytes) () 12/19/2008 postreply 10:24:31

• AND the kids who have higher expectations of themselves -britannica- ♀ (118 bytes) () 12/19/2008 postreply 10:28:24

• No, both are influential -Abemom- ♀ (113 bytes) () 12/19/2008 postreply 10:30:52

• 问题是，你父母不期待才激发你期待自己，你要高期待你孩子，当心他们 -britannica- ♀ (168 bytes) () 12/19/2008 postreply 10:38:30

• 我觉得这不好定论 -study- ♀ (210 bytes) () 12/19/2008 postreply 10:47:08

• 是这样，至少父母高期待不能保证孩子也能期待自己。 -britannica- ♀ (84 bytes) () 12/19/2008 postreply 10:50:10

• Again, The devil is in the details. It is not about my expectati -QualityWithoutName- ♂ (0 bytes) () 12/19/2008 postreply 10:25:35

• It is not about whether my "life" is shallow, it is about whethe -QualityWithoutName- ♂ (140 bytes) () 12/19/2008 postreply 10:30:44

• 9494 -Abemom- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/19/2008 postreply 10:31:25

• heart不更是了，你不shallow还担心什么？ -britannica- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/19/2008 postreply 10:39:56

• 世界上还是mediocre的人占大多数（不管他们自己多么有ambition）， -worldcitizen- ♀ (177 bytes) () 12/19/2008 postreply 11:01:54

• DING!! -zoex- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/19/2008 postreply 12:00:04