While I want to sympathize with you, I am reminded of

来源: ibelieu 于 2008-12-18 18:27:59 [] [旧帖] [给我悄悄话] 阅读数 : (908 bytes)

the question in that familiar story: "Where is the control?" In other words, how do we know for sure you'd have been happier if you had not skipped the two grades? Where is the control that rules out the possibility that you'd have been equally miserable (for other reasons) even if your dad had not made the "absolute right" decision? After all, to let you stay put with peers of your own age would have been as much of your dad's decision as a decision to the contrary. How could he have predicted which decision would result in a happy and healthy daughter? Suppose he had let you stay put and you had felt miserable later on and blamed such misery on his decision?

You are right to say he should not have declared his decision infallible. The truth is nobody really knows in many cases. But then again, how can anyone be sure you are right in attributing your misery to his decision?

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• She has not felt happy. And she knows the reason. -baydad- ♂ 给 baydad 发送悄悄话 (167 bytes) () 12/18/2008 postreply 18:34:13

• If we all know the real cause of our misery, why do we need -ibelieu- ♂ 给 ibelieu 发送悄悄话 (948 bytes) () 12/18/2008 postreply 19:10:58

• I don't have the time. You should do your research by yourself. -baydad- ♂ 给 baydad 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 12/18/2008 postreply 19:14:02

• Then why did you open your mouth in the first place? -ibelieu- ♂ 给 ibelieu 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 12/18/2008 postreply 19:32:38

• 回复：While I want to sympathize with you, I am reminded of -芦苇草- ♀ 给 芦苇草 发送悄悄话 (1110 bytes) () 12/18/2008 postreply 19:23:54

• Please, you've put a ton of words in my mouth. All I'm saying -ibelieu- ♂ 给 ibelieu 发送悄悄话 (270 bytes) () 12/18/2008 postreply 19:31:22

• 回复：Please, you've put a ton of words in my mouth. All I'm sayin -芦苇草- ♀ 给 芦苇草 发送悄悄话 (321 bytes) () 12/18/2008 postreply 19:41:53

• Oh really? You'd be half convincing if you believed your own wo -ibelieu- ♂ 给 ibelieu 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 12/18/2008 postreply 19:59:05

• she is a pusher. -ncpga- ♂ 给 ncpga 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 12/18/2008 postreply 20:19:33

• 回复：回复：While I want to sympathize with you, I am reminded of -itistrue- ♀ 给 itistrue 发送悄悄话 (786 bytes) () 12/18/2008 postreply 20:10:12

• 同意，这么大的人还为这点小时候的事斤斤计较，还不理父母说明本人有问题 -jojokitchen- ♀ 给 jojokitchen 发送悄悄话 jojokitchen 的博客首页 (110 bytes) () 12/18/2008 postreply 20:55:06

• It is difficult to decide which is the cause, right? -N.- ♀ 给 N. 发送悄悄话 N. 的博客首页 (183 bytes) () 12/18/2008 postreply 21:20:48

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