While I want to sympathize with you, I am reminded of

the question in that familiar story: "Where is the control?" In other words, how do we know for sure you'd have been happier if you had not skipped the two grades? Where is the control that rules out the possibility that you'd have been equally miserable (for other reasons) even if your dad had not made the "absolute right" decision? After all, to let you stay put with peers of your own age would have been as much of your dad's decision as a decision to the contrary. How could he have predicted which decision would result in a happy and healthy daughter? Suppose he had let you stay put and you had felt miserable later on and blamed such misery on his decision?

You are right to say he should not have declared his decision infallible. The truth is nobody really knows in many cases. But then again, how can anyone be sure you are right in attributing your misery to his decision?

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• She has not felt happy. And she knows the reason. -baydad- ♂ (167 bytes) () 12/18/2008 postreply 18:34:13

• If we all know the real cause of our misery, why do we need -ibelieu- ♂ (948 bytes) () 12/18/2008 postreply 19:10:58

• I don't have the time. You should do your research by yourself. -baydad- ♂ (0 bytes) () 12/18/2008 postreply 19:14:02

• Then why did you open your mouth in the first place? -ibelieu- ♂ (0 bytes) () 12/18/2008 postreply 19:32:38

• 回复：While I want to sympathize with you, I am reminded of -芦苇草- ♀ (1110 bytes) () 12/18/2008 postreply 19:23:54

• Please, you've put a ton of words in my mouth. All I'm saying -ibelieu- ♂ (270 bytes) () 12/18/2008 postreply 19:31:22

• 回复：Please, you've put a ton of words in my mouth. All I'm sayin -芦苇草- ♀ (321 bytes) () 12/18/2008 postreply 19:41:53

• Oh really? You'd be half convincing if you believed your own wo -ibelieu- ♂ (0 bytes) () 12/18/2008 postreply 19:59:05

• she is a pusher. -ncpga- ♂ (0 bytes) () 12/18/2008 postreply 20:19:33

• 回复：回复：While I want to sympathize with you, I am reminded of -itistrue- ♀ (786 bytes) () 12/18/2008 postreply 20:10:12

• 同意，这么大的人还为这点小时候的事斤斤计较，还不理父母说明本人有问题 -jojokitchen- ♀ (110 bytes) () 12/18/2008 postreply 20:55:06

• It is difficult to decide which is the cause, right? -N.- ♀ (183 bytes) () 12/18/2008 postreply 21:20:48