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1. Constant Need for Validation:

  • Your partner frequently asks, "Do you love me?" or "Am I pretty/handsome?" and gets upset if they don’t get a compliment or reassurance at the exact moment they want it. No matter how much you reassure them, they need continuous attention to feel secure.

2. Overly Jealous or Possessive Behavior:

  • They get upset or suspicious if you spend time with friends or family and feel the need to know every detail of your interactions. They might ask you things like, “Who was that person you were talking to at work?” or demand to check your phone or social media messages regularly.

3. High Expectations for Gifts or Surprises:

  • Your partner expects lavish gifts or elaborate surprises, even for occasions that don’t typically call for big gestures. Birthdays, holidays, or even small anniversaries become high-pressure events where they expect something over-the-top, and may not be happy with anything less.

4. Frequent Emotional Outbursts:

  • They might have dramatic emotional reactions to small, everyday things. For instance, they get incredibly upset over something like a slight change in plans or an innocent comment, and expect you to drop everything to soothe them or fix the situation.

5. Wanting All of Your Time:

  • Your partner insists that you spend all your free time together, and they get upset if you hang out with friends, family, or even want some alone time. They might say things like, "If you loved me, you'd want to spend every minute with me."

6. Constant Comparison:

  • They compare you to their ex-partners, friends, or even celebrities, always expecting you to live up to an unrealistic standard. “Why can’t you be more like this person?” becomes a common phrase in their vocabulary.

7. Need for Constant Attention and Compliments:

  • They want to be the center of attention all the time, and get upset or pouty if you’re not giving them enough attention. For instance, if you're busy working or talking to someone else, they may feel ignored and make passive-aggressive comments.

8. Over-the-Top Requests or Demands:

  • They might ask for something that's completely unreasonable, like changing plans last minute for an elaborate date night, or demanding you attend every event they’re invited to, even if it’s inconvenient for you.

9. Seeking Drama or Conflict:

  • They might pick fights over the smallest things—like whether you left the toothpaste cap off—and turn it into a bigger issue, needing to "talk it out" over and over again, even when the situation doesn't warrant that much attention.

10. Living in an Idealized Fantasy:

  • Your partner may fantasize about a "perfect" relationship and then get upset when real life doesn’t measure up. They might expect grand romantic gestures or ideal situations at all times, which is exhausting to maintain long-term.

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嗯,这是“作”,对感情没信心,对家境不体谅。 -phobos- 给 phobos 发送悄悄话 phobos 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 02/22/2025 postreply 19:02:00

娃们看对眼了家长只能干瞪眼 -会飞的小猪- 给 会飞的小猪 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 02/22/2025 postreply 19:03:52

这个3D 作,没人能受得了,LOL -成功的小猴子- 给 成功的小猴子 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 02/22/2025 postreply 19:17:07

这个定义是不是专指女孩?听起来像是依赖型人格 + 物质主义 -香草仙子- 给 香草仙子 发送悄悄话 香草仙子 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 02/22/2025 postreply 19:09:36

应该不是吧。男女都有这样作的 -Bebe54321- 给 Bebe54321 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 02/22/2025 postreply 19:21:56

你这个定义太极端,按这个标准,这种人很罕见。 -羊爸兔妈- 给 羊爸兔妈 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 02/22/2025 postreply 19:16:11

应该不是拥有所有这些才叫high maintenance, 拥有一两个就算了,已经让人难以招架了,LOL -成功的小猴子- 给 成功的小猴子 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 02/22/2025 postreply 19:18:04

不是說每一條都要有啊 -violinpiano- 给 violinpiano 发送悄悄话 (264 bytes) () 02/22/2025 postreply 19:18:49

男的也有这样作的。不是只有女生独有的 -Bebe54321- 给 Bebe54321 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 02/22/2025 postreply 19:19:29

占上一两点就难对付了,还是互相体谅为好,偶尔耍耍小性子没问题。 -amiyumi- 给 amiyumi 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 02/22/2025 postreply 19:23:31

好像小中女这样的很少听说。美国其他族裔很多人有这些问题 -Bailey4321- 给 Bailey4321 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 02/22/2025 postreply 19:29:22

成熟的男孩子不喜欢drama queen,喜欢能给生活bring peace 的伴侣。 -小松松- 给 小松松 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 02/22/2025 postreply 19:32:50

upset over something like a slight change in plans,这可能是说我吗? -Pilsung- 给 Pilsung 发送悄悄话 (1062 bytes) () 02/22/2025 postreply 19:39:24

说反了,感觉你老公才是high maintenance 的那个,LOL -成功的小猴子- 给 成功的小猴子 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 02/22/2025 postreply 19:43:37

唉,摊上了.甩不也不掉了.每次骂他Being so picky,结果他还反驳, -Pilsung- 给 Pilsung 发送悄悄话 (263 bytes) () 02/22/2025 postreply 19:50:04

哈哈哈 -香草仙子- 给 香草仙子 发送悄悄话 香草仙子 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 02/22/2025 postreply 20:20:47

哈哈哈。你家的事让你一描述,吵架都很好玩 -香草仙子- 给 香草仙子 发送悄悄话 香草仙子 的博客首页 (291 bytes) () 02/22/2025 postreply 20:26:47

我们都不喜欢inclusive,喜欢去外面多多exploring。 -不常冒泡- 给 不常冒泡 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 02/22/2025 postreply 20:42:31

把partner改成daughter,活脱脱我女儿呀。家长要怎么做才好? -向往空巢生活123- 给 向往空巢生活123 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 02/23/2025 postreply 08:21:44

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