It's really not fair for your older son.
First of all, he's only four and he also needs 100% of parental care. He does not have the ability or the responsibility to help you to take care of the little one.
Secondly, little kids aren't like adults whose maturity reaches another level after the arrival of a new life. also, the new born is a threaten to the older child, so you cannot expect him to act mature and help you to take care of his brother.
Thirdly, I don't think you got your older son's approval before you gave birth to your younger one. as a family member, your older son has already been disrespected on this matter. therefore, you owe him big. Psychologically, children don't have the natural bonding with their siblings like parents do their kids. therefore, they are more likely to ignore them, or, under normal circumstances, see the new born as their threat. so your job is not to expect love to suddenly appear between your older son and his brother (because that's just not gonna happen), but it is to help the children to form a really close sibling bonds.
anyway, just remember, your older son is only four; he is also a child who needs 100% parental care. and the old chinese traditional "让着小的" is not natural for young siblings and it should absolutely not be expected.
First of all, he's only four and he also needs 100% of parental care. He does not have the ability or the responsibility to help you to take care of the little one.
Secondly, little kids aren't like adults whose maturity reaches another level after the arrival of a new life. also, the new born is a threaten to the older child, so you cannot expect him to act mature and help you to take care of his brother.
Thirdly, I don't think you got your older son's approval before you gave birth to your younger one. as a family member, your older son has already been disrespected on this matter. therefore, you owe him big. Psychologically, children don't have the natural bonding with their siblings like parents do their kids. therefore, they are more likely to ignore them, or, under normal circumstances, see the new born as their threat. so your job is not to expect love to suddenly appear between your older son and his brother (because that's just not gonna happen), but it is to help the children to form a really close sibling bonds.
anyway, just remember, your older son is only four; he is also a child who needs 100% parental care. and the old chinese traditional "让着小的" is not natural for young siblings and it should absolutely not be expected.
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