谢谢子坛！尤其谢谢Windyll、硬码工还有Mikecwu、icyclimber

Your children are not your children.

     They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
     They come through you but not from you,
     And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.

     You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
     For they have their own thoughts.
     You may house their bodies but not their souls,
     For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
     You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.
     For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
     You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.
     The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite, and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far.
     Let your bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness;
     For even as He loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable.

 

此版不会再来了。谢谢各位！

再补充一下我在其他坛友的帖子上的回帖：

 

藤校喜欢有热情的、在某方面取得了突出成绩（spike)、有主动性的孩子。光看成绩本身没用。GPA可能很高，但是能不能拿到老师很好的推荐信很关键；有没有强烈的运用所学服务社会的意识；有没有为了自己喜欢干的事情大量投入时间、就算是可能影响GPA的勇气；有没有“我就是我”，不用迎合你的录取标准去做一个虚荣的“我”的傲气。

另外就是，孩子的成长有很大的随机性。如果没有父母的干预，孩子们有各种各样的天份，适合干各种各样的工作。有些因为某些随机因素会越不断的累积自己的优势在某方面越来越强，有些也可能就真的是平常人。我们很多华人的做法就是人云亦云的把孩子打造成一个模子刻出来的产品，GPA一定要怎么样，AP要越多越好，乐器、体育都要标配，这样做的结果是抹去了孩子的棱角，花了大量时间做不是自己优势的事情，卷来卷去都成了一样的孩子。

藤校不是跑道的终点，能够站在这条起跑线上的都是幸运的孩子，在对的时间做了对的事情，赢得了招生官的青睐。人生很长，希望大家都好运。

 

 

所有跟帖： 

• 恭喜恭喜。。。 -Midwestrural- ♂ (0 bytes) () 12/14/2023 postreply 16:55:19

• 恭喜祝贺 -kxl- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/14/2023 postreply 16:55:48

• 恭喜恭喜！ -Croissant_22- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/14/2023 postreply 16:56:52

• 恭喜！ -phoenix05- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/14/2023 postreply 16:57:44

• 恭喜恭 -两女宝妈- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/14/2023 postreply 16:58:03

• 恭喜, 不用不来，建议继续泡坛，分享藤校体验，反馈子坦更有意义。 -tidytiger- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/14/2023 postreply 16:58:32

• 恭喜 -石榴- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/14/2023 postreply 16:59:11

• 恭喜恭喜！ -天秤妈妈水瓶宝宝- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/14/2023 postreply 17:00:38

• 恭喜，为啥不再来了？ -amiyumi- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/14/2023 postreply 17:05:21

• 恭喜！ -Pilsung- ♂ (0 bytes) () 12/14/2023 postreply 17:07:23

• 恭喜 -舒展- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/14/2023 postreply 17:11:43

• 恭喜 -无言无语无声- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/14/2023 postreply 17:14:25

• 恭喜恭喜！ -jingzhumama- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/14/2023 postreply 17:17:32

• 恭喜恭喜！ -江城_83- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/14/2023 postreply 17:18:59

• 恭喜恭喜！谢谢分享心得体会。-：） -有言- ♂ (0 bytes) () 12/14/2023 postreply 17:20:20

• 恭喜恭喜!!! -成功的77- ♂ (0 bytes) () 12/14/2023 postreply 17:20:26

• 恭喜恭喜！ -年年潜水- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/14/2023 postreply 17:23:50

• 恭喜恭喜 -2008VGirl- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/14/2023 postreply 17:24:30

• 恭喜恭喜！ -newburyport- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/14/2023 postreply 17:27:00

• 真好！为你们高兴！ -小团圆- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/14/2023 postreply 17:35:16

• 恭喜恭喜！孩子真不容易，这回全家能高兴的过个好节日了！ -windyLL- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/14/2023 postreply 17:45:59

• 恭喜祝贺 -成功的兔- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/14/2023 postreply 17:52:39

• 恭喜！是的每个孩子有每个孩子的顿悟时刻，只要爹妈对娃有信心这一天早晚会来的。 -qqdragon- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/14/2023 postreply 17:57:23

• 恭喜恭喜! -keyport2017- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/14/2023 postreply 18:22:14

• 恭喜恭喜 -jenniferhj- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/14/2023 postreply 18:52:00

• 恭喜恭喜！为啥不来了？ -yunick- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/14/2023 postreply 19:13:39