Strongly agree with 喜喜的爸妈

A lot of Chinese believe "学都无所谓，大了自然开" and do not pay attention to "学会控制自己的行为和情感" (EQ). "注册时领的类似学生守则的一本书。家长孩子应该读一次，了解它" is indeed very important. Kids need to learn to take the consequences (punishment) if he/she crosses the basic lines. It teaches them that 社会 they live in has rules. If they break rules, they have to pay for it. The most important thing I want my kids to learn is that they are in control. They can decide if following the rules and they HAVE TO take the consequences. If they think that it is worth to break the rule, they can be that way as long as they live with the consequences. If they think that the rule should be changed, they can try to "挑战学校"to change it. And I will encourage them. But if they break rules because that they can not 控制自己的行为和情感, the consequences will be PAINFUL and they HAVE TO take the consequences their self! The worst thing I can do is “挑战学校" to free my kids.
If I were MagentaCherry, the first thing I asked my kid (especially he is already 12 years old) was what he thought why things got so out of control. He needs to understand what rules he broke and the consequences, what choices he had during different stages of this event, and what kind difference results he would get if he made other choices at different stages. Also I will agree with him that assistant principal should not lie. Based on these, he, definitely not me, needs to go to school to apology and try get school to let him back. School here is very understanding.

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• 先礼后冰 - when my Son was in trouble -Big_Benz- ♂ (1937 bytes) () 11/25/2007 postreply 12:30:23

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• SOOOOOOO agree with you!! -ggMom- ♀ (82 bytes) () 11/25/2007 postreply 13:32:32