人们都说难搞定的孩子都是有个性的孩子，因为有自己的想法，所以他不愿意听从有经验的过来人的说教，他不相信很多他自己没看见过，没听说过，没经历过的“经验之谈”。你告诉他这水是烫的，不要摸，他非要烫出血泡才承认你说的没错，把手伸进开水里一点儿也不好玩儿。你告诉他这玩具里的钢球不是食物，不能吃，他非要放进嘴里，咽到肚子里再拉出来才相信，圆滚滚闪亮的钢球没有糖的味道。这样的孩子往往在成长的路上会走更多的弯路，会进步的十分缓慢，会让父母老师更抓狂，但他们也同时会在磕磕绊绊中有更多的机会从自己的角度思考人生，从自己的视角看待世界。我家熊二就是这么一个“鸡肋”型的孩子，你给他指的阳关大道，他样样都干不好，但出其不意之间我却发现，他在自己的小叉道儿里倒是走得逍遥自在，时不时还能整出点儿让人刮目相看的东西。
熊二喜欢看书，还喜欢写东西。两年前看到别的小朋友写小说出书，大受震撼。跟我说：“妈咪，我也想写书。”我当时听了马上泼凉水：“你那三分钟热度的性格，还是算了吧。如果非要写，你就写journal，每天写一篇，先让我看看你能坚持多长时间。”那时是2017年12月份，从那时开始熊二每天写一篇，一直到现在写了将近一千篇。我不鼓励，也不打击，一心一意等着他自己写不下去了放弃。没想到人家还越写越带劲，文章从保护妇女权益，到愚蠢的人类在毁坏自然界，从保护小动物，到抱怨校长处理问题不公平，从为什么不应该学数学，到超级碗橄榄球决赛，从《大卫·科波菲尔》的书评，到golf球比赛的得失分析。。。两年多以来，他的文章看起来好像有点儿内涵了。昨天写的一篇让我这个当妈的也不得不承认他确实通过写作在思考了。
Ownership is a weird concept, but what it basically means is that you have to own yourself and live up to what you might have done wrong. But, it can also mean materialism, which is a bit more complex.
New technological advances in the world have driven society completely crazy. People are always after the latest iPhone, tablet, or flat screen television. Owning these objects makes people feel “modern” and “trendy”. Society even separates people by the items they possess. Owning something tangible “defines” who people are, and so possessing a luxurious Lamborghini makes people feel wealthy. The ownership of tangible items defines a person’s status and gives people a sense of “happiness” and “worth”.
Fancy gadgets are not the only objects that define people. Intangible items such as ideas and opinions have a large role in building a person’s character. “Owning” an idea, concept, opinion, thought, knowledge, or belief makes a person unique. Having a different perspective from another individual makes a person unique. Our character and personality is based on our beliefs and personal choices. All of these intangible aspects define a person. For example, Walt Disney’s creativity and imagination was often overlooked by many because his ideas were far different from others and frankly considered abnormal at the time. Today, his visionary ideas have made him one of the most successful people on Earth. Walt Disney’s personality is defined as innovative and original because of his opinions and concepts. People who think “out of the box” are always appreciated and victorious. The ownership of thoughts characterizes people and gives people a sense of who they are.
Ownership and sense of self also relate to personal experiences. Owning objects such as ancient artifacts kept from ancestors might also define a person’s character. A person keeps and treasures items passed down from family because it is a “part” of them. Similar to personal experiences, in that the hardships an individual faces builds on their character. Owning past memories and goals that one has accomplished also give people a sense of who they are. For example, an individual who is consumed by their dream does everything possible to excel and become successful. Owning their achievements defines their character.
The ownership of tangible and intangible objects gives people a sense of who they are. Obtaining ideas and logical notions separate people and makes them unique. Tangible objects give a true representation of a person’s character. Having a sense of who you are as a person and your character is ownership.
除了写文章，熊二让我跌破眼镜的看到了他的坚持，另外在摄影方面，也让我意外的发现他有一双颇有感觉的眼睛。熊二从小喜欢给人照相，看到奶奶送给哥哥一架Nikon相机，羡慕的不得了，总想拿到手里摆弄。但鉴于他那双“捏屁手”，拿什么摔什么的劣迹，我从来严厉禁止他接触一切高科技的产品。就这样，他还摔坏一个相机，弄坏一套音响，搞碎好几个手机屏幕。直到今年12岁了，我们才给他一个哥哥不用的手机。有了手机，熊二别的不干，就是到处照相。昨天先生带他去打golf，回来给我看他给先生照的一张背影照，让我顿时羡慕嫉妒恨的不得了，那样的美图美景中的背影怎么不是我！！
总是看着熊二运气，因为你说东，他一定说西，你说打狗，他一定要抓鸡。跟他挣绷了12年，现在发现东边不亮，也许西边会亮，狗没打到，也许抓来的是一只大肥鸡，就权且这样自我安慰一下吧。疫情结束还遥遥无期，跟熊二在家较量的日子也看不到尽头，只能看着熊二的文章和摄影咬牙坚持吧！
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