没有孩子自打娘胎里出来就知道对文，体，阅读，乐器，画画等有兴趣。推的成功的例子太多了，中国朗朗爸爸的强推就不说，美国 M Phelps 自小老娘一年365天，只有圣诞节那天不推下水练习游泳（一年364天接送，无论多远），我们从小被教育的榜样居里夫人也是自己强推出来的。
只有推了才知道孩子有没有天赋和兴趣，而且绝大多是孩子是需要鞭策的，那种由着孩子性子来是不能锻炼孩子意志和毅力的。仅仅参加学校的音乐活动就是孩子有兴趣，还说这也可以培养孩子的音乐素养。而课外为了进一步提高孩子技艺而在家练习或送私教就不是富养孩子简直是很中国化的一种打击别人抬高自己的BSO。
真正的富养孩子是挪威的那种，紫檀估计没有多少家庭有这种条件和心态。
还有一种成功的富养方式，挪威也做不到，就是总统Trump的那种。还有 Dr. Eric Betzig家的方式，但Dr. Eric Betzig 在做CEO的同时强自推，在自己家车库里做实验，失败无数，最后赢得2014 年诺贝尔奖，即使这样，他自己是这样对他母校的高中同学说：
Betzig told xxx students they are privileged to attend the school, and should consider what they really want to do in life and be passionate about whatever they choose. “Whether it's science, cooking, rap music, whatever you want to do. Put everything into it because nothing is better than hard work and even when you fail don't give up, find something else or try again. The purpose of the passion is to make it so the hard work is easy, and to get you over those times when you are really down and you think that it's time to give up,” Betzig said.
Passion and hard work weren’t always enough for Betzig. “I think what my story shows is that you cannot be afraid to fail. I failed big time, twice before we finally got to a success, and I don’t even regard that as maybe that great of a success,” he said.
In the 1990’s Betzig quit his job at Bell Labs and left science entirely without a back-up plan. Eventually he returned to Michigan to work for his father’s business.....
这个富养成功的男孩不是也告诉我们要尝试各种东西吗，而且也要很努力才行。这不就是我们给孩子的各种各样的EC吗？当然我们不是每个孩子有Dr Betzig，朗朗，Phelps 或居里夫人那么成功，好多不运气的没有进入心仪的大学，但我们培养了孩子的意志和毅力以及对生活和工作的一种态度，这对他们未来是一种财富吧。再说，就是不那么成功，我们家长也不会遗憾。
你尽管砸，我不怕。嘿嘿
