美国妈妈如何做：当孩子参加饮酒的聚会

In a book I am reading recently, there is chapter devoted to prevent young boys' drinking problem: 

( At a Lecture of the author) One woman raised her hand and speak" I feel intense pressure to let my sons do things which i don't believe are right. so this is what i have done. I collected four other mothers, whose sons are friends with mine and who feel the same. They don't want their boys drinking on weekends either, so we formed a kind of " Mom squad" . we decided to take the heat for each other. 

When one of our sons complains he can't go to drinking parties, we point out that his friend can't also. Thy boys don’t feel along then. 

the other thing we do is offer to take the boys to professional soccer or football games on weekend. or we asked one of the dads to take them finishing or to the movies . we want them to have good alternatives, so they don’t feel like the geeks in the class for not going out and getting drunk every weekend. 

it works, the mom concluded.  

Book name : Strong mom, strong son, by Meg Meeker. M.D 

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• 3 -COMC- ♀ (6 bytes) () 08/06/2015 postreply 10:04:02

• 因为你相信儿子有自制力,别人的孩子不了解 -lehauma- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/06/2015 postreply 10:52:17

• Thumbs up! -brotheravery- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/06/2015 postreply 10:07:11

• 不管别人如何 -skyport- ♂ (242 bytes) () 08/06/2015 postreply 10:08:25

• 赞！强势爹！ -代小酒- ♀ (39 bytes) () 08/06/2015 postreply 10:25:09

• 我以前也会这么说。 但最近读书发现， 孩子觉察到父母控制的倾向时， 反抗会更强烈， 或者 -心镜- ♀ (240 bytes) () 08/06/2015 postreply 10:27:09

• 也对 -skyport- ♂ (73 bytes) () 08/06/2015 postreply 10:30:22

• 孩子在每个时期都会碰到新的问题和困惑。 提出， 就有和父母讨论的机会， 比什么都藏在心里好吧？ -心镜- ♀ (81 bytes) () 08/06/2015 postreply 10:36:35

• 当然 -skyport- ♂ (146 bytes) () 08/06/2015 postreply 10:42:28

• 完全同意 -lehauma- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/06/2015 postreply 10:56:31

• 有bottom line，馋酒算substance abuse. -燕京十景- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/06/2015 postreply 10:36:44

• 孩子馋酒？如果没有父母酗酒史，这个可能性不大。 多半是用饮酒来显示成熟， 或与同伴的融合。。。 -心镜- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/06/2015 postreply 10:39:03

• 饮酒来显示成熟is stupid. -燕京十景- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/06/2015 postreply 10:43:41

• 还有搞性来显示成熟的 -skyport- ♂ (111 bytes) () 08/06/2015 postreply 10:45:58

• 喝酒与酗酒是两个概念,不要想到喝酒就是酗酒 -lehauma- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/06/2015 postreply 11:01:07

• 美国的Alcoholic问题比中国强调地研究地更多。 对成年人， 酗酒只是表现，酗酒者都有很多更深层的原生家庭问题。 -心镜- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/06/2015 postreply 10:42:31

• 父母强行干扰孩子自由,导致个性强的孩子叛逆,个性弱的孩子放弃自我.失去目标 -lehauma- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/06/2015 postreply 10:55:32

• 父母家自然父母定规矩，这个不是要控制谁。最重要的是父母和孩子沟通良好 --百科-- ♀ (234 bytes) () 08/06/2015 postreply 11:11:49

• +1 -lihuama- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/06/2015 postreply 11:00:47

• 我儿子的男校， 高中入学就有一个父母和孩子必须参加的活动：substance abuse and peer pressure -心镜- ♀ (407 bytes) () 08/06/2015 postreply 10:19:17

• 天主教的私校不管男校女校都必有这课。 -小团员- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/06/2015 postreply 10:22:10

• 都是强调 Moral 和Characters的学校。 我喜欢这种教育的倾向。 -心镜- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/06/2015 postreply 10:31:47

• 在某些藤校也有关于酒类课程 -lehauma- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/06/2015 postreply 10:58:19

• 点赞。 -incywincy- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/06/2015 postreply 10:28:10

• 赞一个。 -蜀芊芊- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/06/2015 postreply 10:30:41

• 我先生当年高中毕业同学们一起喝酒聚会。有个同学 -julie116- ♀ (114 bytes) () 08/06/2015 postreply 13:51:40