I feel your pain

Of course the first thing is to get accepted. I always felt that for general majors (i.e. biology), school counts more. But for specific area (i.e. architecture), the program counts more.

But I never went to Ivy, so I could not help my daughter with my own experience. But for boys, I think it might be better for them to go to college in a different state, so they learn to be more independent.