maybe the two of you can visit her on weekend every other

week. Your hu*****and is already seeing her every week now so she may think it is enough. Of course you are not part of the weekly lunch so maybe you can change that into something the three of you do together, once a week or every other week. If she can't come back, let her; but at least you can still keep regular contact. My son is busy at school too. He doesn't come back home much even though he is pretty close to home too; but he did come back this year for chinese new year on his own.I really didn't expect him to. When kids are old enough, we really can't make them do anything they don't want to. Just give them some room. 个把月才回来一次 is normal, but doesn't show care for dad is not. Something is wrong there.