回复：和老婆争吵关于教育儿子的方法

1. 她其实根本不care今后儿子怎么样，她关心的是儿子是不是依赖她，向着她。

Did she say that or it's your assumption? It is hard to believe a mom doesn't care about her sons' future.

2. 小男孩太听话了，基本也就毁了。

What if a kid runs in a parking lot regardless how the parents want him to stop? Sometimes it is better to listen to adults.

3. 有时跟LP吵，但要完全说服她有难度，我自己又太忙，否则的话我就自己都管了。

Your disagreement with your wife is hard to disguise and kids can tell. They will take advangtage of it if they can.They are smart and selfish--we are born that way, I mean, selfish. They need EQ wisdom from mom to make friends and get along with others.

Neither of you is wrong. You two are different. That's why kids need both mom and dad (no offense to single parent). Maybe read parenting books together. It's a learning process for the whole family including the parents to grow together. We learn to be a parent, a good one. Good luck.

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• 看得多一点，就发现很多妈妈表面＂特别慈爱＂，其实＂占有欲特强＂ -zhuozhuo- ♀ (108 bytes) () 06/26/2012 postreply 19:08:19

• 看样子，你妈妈在你的成长过程中，给你造成过伤害。：） -睿睿妈- ♀ (0 bytes) () 06/26/2012 postreply 19:31:35

• 并不是这样，相反我妈妈最疼我，因为我是家里四子女中最小的 -zhuozhuo- ♀ (199 bytes) () 06/26/2012 postreply 19:44:43

• 现在我LP走的和我妈是一道。想当初我也是我妈最乖的儿子，干什么都以妈妈高兴为准 -zhuozhuo- ♀ (0 bytes) () 06/26/2012 postreply 19:47:37

• 你现在被毁了吗？ -茶园15- ♀ (0 bytes) () 06/26/2012 postreply 20:23:36

• 我很后怕，要不是来美我现在可能还是缺少生活能力，缺少判断力的＂乖孩子＂ -zhuozhuo- ♀ (57 bytes) () 06/26/2012 postreply 20:32:40

• 你儿子不是也来美了么？你还担心什么？：） -淘淘爸- ♂ (0 bytes) () 06/26/2012 postreply 21:31:39

• 我来美是独闯，第二代就不同了，他们有家庭做依靠 -zhuozhuo- ♀ (135 bytes) () 06/26/2012 postreply 21:37:11

• 看到这里理解LZ的想法了 -风起- ♀ (1191 bytes) () 06/26/2012 postreply 22:44:53

• 这种爱如果无意的话就是溺爱，如果有意的话就是自私的爱 -zhuozhuo- ♀ (343 bytes) () 06/26/2012 postreply 23:13:51

• 节约和不浪费有什么区别呀？都是不超出需求嘛 -风起- ♀ (226 bytes) () 06/26/2012 postreply 23:28:27

• 节约是尽量少用钱，少用东西（往往是against愿望），这种价值取向迟早要影响品质 -zhuozhuo- ♀ (85 bytes) () 06/26/2012 postreply 23:49:22

• 克己能带来什么品质问题啊,满足自己就好吗?满足不了的时候怎么办?是你自己的问题 -风起- ♀ (0 bytes) () 06/27/2012 postreply 07:34:36

• 过分的克己会开来另外一面的放纵， 例子很多。 -crab666- ♂ (0 bytes) () 06/27/2012 postreply 10:21:19

• 我还是不能理解自私的爱是什么。是说帮孩子解决问题太多？ -风起- ♀ (259 bytes) () 06/26/2012 postreply 23:41:57

• 如果故意的话，那种爱实际上是一种控制手段 -zhuozhuo- ♀ (281 bytes) () 06/27/2012 postreply 00:00:00

• 那是要小心了。 -西门观雪- ♀ (344 bytes) () 06/27/2012 postreply 12:25:03